your love language?

I think I would say I can be pretty good at verbal and physical. I have been told I know what to say when it needs to be said, but I am a lot more physical. But I also know words aren’t needed sometimes (or in that moment) and a solid presence is needed instead. Other than that I don’t pay attention to myself much (not where it’d count anyway)... so, I would have to go off of what people say XD.

Quality time spent and rememberance of things like birthdays and events is what i like. I'm a gifter along with doing the above.

I will note this for people who aren't sure how to use this information, Love Languages is a way to understand how someone shows and prefers to receive affection. So their list for receiving could be quite different to how they give affection. Knowing this about your loved ones helps you to understand them and approach potential problems you may run into. It's not a set-in-stone list either. Since different people can get different parts of this list. I would say that it's a bit nuanced on how I like to receive and how I give affection. But in general: 1. Acts of Service; like making tea for the people I'm close to. 2. For a romantic partner, this is probably physical touch, mostly because I need to work through some horrific trauma and trust issues. I generally DO NOT like being touched especially around my neck. I can barely even touch my own neck. For my family, I'd say Quality Time here. 3. Quality Time over all. Like cleaning together, hiking, swimming, yoga, just spending a little time getting tasks done. 4. Words of Affirmation. I am not a words person. I despise people who do a lot of talking but never do anything. Your words don't mean shit to me until you back them up with your actions. 5. Gifts of Affection. I honestly wouldn't even put this on the list. Unless I know your intentions are pure, I WILL NOT accept gifts from anyone. I refuse. It looks like an attempt at manipulation and coercion and I will mentally shut down or bite down and become a toxic bitch and tear you apart. I am generally poor, but I do get nice things for my siblings and make things for them like cake for their birthdays.

I guess just showing they care. That's probably a lot easier said than done though. By default I assume no one cares. Probably asking too much but there's a lot of easy things people could say and do, but if someone goes out of their way I'd absolutely notice that. like how I'd prefer something cheap and hand crafted over something pricy bought from a store. I've appreciated drawings, even simple ones, a lot more than things people have said. It's so easy after all to just say they like you or care or whatever, anyone can do it, and a lot of people lie about it for various reasons. So I guess in short, I think actions speak much louder than words.