yuuzora

Do you feel like you're getting enough of the right nutrients? Sometimes chronic tiredness can be an indication that we're not getting enough of something. Anemia, for example, which is common for us girls at that time of month.

Being in a forest can be scary if one is unprepared. And there is a lot to go wrong, so it's actually very smart to go with someone rather than alone. :)

Random Philosophical, Self-Analysis, Psychology Bullshit ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ It isn't a completely toxic trait, but I notice I have an impulse to want to help or fix things. When it comes to people, I have to develop a habit of asking if a person just wants sympathy(not a bad thing, by the way) or if they want to create a plan to address the issue they're complaining about. In the context of relationships in general, I thought initially this would mean I 'see potential' and want to 'fix him/her/etc'. In the past that may have been true, but I think now, especially with my deep empathic nature I don't like to see people in pain. I see problems at their root, typically, and try to point that out to the subject. It doesn't always occur to me that a person may not want help. Whether they're shallow and don't want to actually address their bullshit or they're scared to see it or they aren't ready; perhaps that makes it an inconsiderate desire to want to help someone? There is the fact that it also stems from a need to feel useful to others. So to some extent this isn't a fully selfless desire. Especially considering debts. Due to abuse in the past, I hate being indebted to anyone for fear they will try to use emotional blackmail to manipulate me. So I keep my ledgers balanced as much as possible. Only if I know your intentions will I accept gifts of any sort from a person. That list can be counted on a single hand. The way in which this is toxic is often that I'm... kinda spicy. Sometimes a person needs their ass kicked to get out of their pity party. It's worked rather well before. Three of my siblings, two of my friends, every person that ever came into my workshop in those days. However, that doesn't mean it works at all times. Especially concerning romantic relationships, it tends to uncover the other person's toxic traits. I've only had 2 romantic relationships(one was abuse and emotional blackmail, so would dare say I was only in one consenting romantic relationship). With the latter one, I should've seen more quickly that he was lazy. Too lazy to put effort into anything because he's the sort of privileged, spoilt brat that had everything done for him. He never worked hard for a single thing in his life. And still doesn't. He always said 'I want to be a writer', me being both an old pro at that time and a supportive person offered to help him write a book. Every time I would set time aside from my 70 hour work week to help him, he'd kick and whine like a child not wanting to do any homework. Even if I made things easy for him by structuring the outlines, showing him my tools and tricks. He didn't use any of it and maybe wrote a total of six pages his whole life. I am being rather literal. He never wanted to actually sit down and do the work. This led to me being burned out dealing with him, like he was a child and not a grown man. I should mention that this was around the time I was losing my career to a nerve disease I didn't know I had yet. Perhaps that wouldn't have happened if I didn't try to help so much? If I didn't want to be supportive of his 'dream', maybe I wouldn't have felt so undervalued? I mean, he was also a messy, disgusting person who blamed me for everything that went wrong... but it would also be on me for not seeing that sooner because I wanted to help so much. So, addressing this... is going to be as difficult as dealing with the abusive trait I have... it isn't tied to ptsd or ocd, so that's a plus. But I think it calls into question where the line is between wanting to be a fixer and being more genuinely supportive? I need to draw that boundary clearly so I can avoid becoming toxic.

Interesting. Gintama is my oldest sister's favorite anime. Not many westerners I know like it as much. A melon soda like ramune? I will say this about 20. Romantic love is overrated. Trying to like yourself... that's the real challenge.

Eee, I live with a Boss Karen, too. My condolences to your sanity. Urdu: Bhosrike. Farsi: Keer What are the meanings of those words?

Answer however the hell you want. Normal is good. Normal means you aren't a complete crazy person. Being crazy is actually quite painful. I didn't see this on the Discord. I really have to overhaul it, it eats my messages. :< Haddaway, I'll have to look that up. Never heard of it. Also, tacos are life. I especially love pupusas from this Ecuadorian guy where I live. He's a total asshole, but he can make amazing carne asada and even gets fresh goat cheese from one of the farms on my driving route. Those goats like to be petted on the belly. :)

By 'nice guy/nice girl' I mean the people that are manipulative and see only romantic conquest rather than seeing a human being. I do believe that survival outcomes would be significantly improved if we started teaching first aid and cpr to every person in school. I think getting a little weak in the knees counts as kishimu.

OMG seriously. Especially in high humidity area. First time I ever got heat stroke. I'm glad my bois had my back or I'd probably still be wearing the stucco. :(