Can you get in a relationship without pickup lines or witty banter?

I've noticed for a while lately that I'm just not great at holding / carrying a conversation. I do see on dating sites that many women say they want a good pickup line, or someone that can hold a conversation. I just feel that whatever I end up doing, just amounts to small talk. I don't really do the cheesy pickup lines and...I just don't feel all that funny and spontaneous anymore. In the end, it seems many women barley reply or keep things brief with their comment, which makes me think they just aren't interested, so I usually just back off. With that said, I see plenty of people that seem more boring than me and they seem to be in relationships somehow. Is there some way for more introverted people to enjoy being together? Personally I enjoy doing activities like sports, games, trying new things, etc, but I could enjoy doing so without much conversation. At least until I get to know someone more, I doubt I would talk much, but it's because of that, I can't get to know someone. I'd like some thoughts from both sides - women, and quiet guys that are in a happy relationship.

I've never dated before, so I don't think I'm the best candidate for this, BUT! As someone who has quite a few friends here and lots of conversations, I think it truly just depends on the person or people you are talking to. People that know me IRL know I can talk hours upon hours if we are really close, or even if we just find a good topic of discussion. However, I'm also someone who CAN be quiet and just listen to what's going on around me, but I do also enjoy presence sometimes too, because words don't always need to be said for you to enjoy one another's company. But not all people feel the same, and I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. I think, that when you really love someone or just are fond of them, you'll go out of your way to try new things for them sometimes, but it's also fair that they respect your comfort zone and stick to doing things you like too. Knowing how to talk and conversate is important, I truly do believe that, but if you have friends or a lover that cares about you enough, I think they'll remain patient with you as you try and figure out how to be more talkative. I think you should remain yourself while also remaining open to step out to try conversating more, especially as you seem to want to, and maybe be honest with others about how you aren't the best at it. Heaven knows that I often feel bad cause I forget to check in or don't have much to say somedays XD, yet I still (somehow) have plenty of friends who communicate with me on here and elsewhere as well! But, I have been told they can tell I care about them...so there's something to be said about just being sincere in your intentions and honest whenever you do say something, because it CAN have an impact on others even though you are only talking online. Sorry for talking your online ears off lol, and I know I probably didn't help much. But, to sum it all up, sincerity, understanding and honesty goes a looooong way in a relationship, whether platonic or romantic. Sometimes, we don't even know the reasons why someone may not respond back, cause sometimes it may not be for bad reasons, just life happening ^^. Anyhow, I keep blabbing, but I wish you the best! ❤️ (Edit: the one man on here that I did show interest in was pretty corny if not downright awful with pickup lines XD. And I still liked him cause it was cute and endearing and silly, but, he also was pretty good at just genuinely complimenting me in a flirty way...like my personality and looks, and that's what made me more fond of him.)

Let me tell you something that you more than likely already know lil weabuu. As the guy, you will have to carry 90% plus of the conversations. Some of these broads couldn't hold a conversation if their lives depended on it. Why would they? Honestly? Statistically most dating sites are a weaner fest. Here's a fun fact, Tinder is 80% male and 20% female. It's a numbers game. Even on this site. Do this experiment. You'll see that I'm right. New girl on this site joins. New boy on this site joins. Look at their walls, you'll see a stark difference. One is an ocean, another is desert. Women are bombarded with messages. They can sift through messages like it's whatever, 1st message meh, 2nd message hi, 3rd message no response, so on and so forth. Since they have to sift through so many messages, why waste your time on any one message when you have 20 more in the bank? There's your small talk you're talking about. Even though feminism this and feminism that and equality this and ra ra ra! Most women still expect men to chase, you have to put your best foot forward, you have to be the funnier one, you have to be the wittier one, you have to be the one to get her to like you...most of the time. There are exceptions of course. But most of the time rule still stands sucka! Women don't really develop the skill to hold a conversation because quite frankly they don't have to most of the time. It's the guy that chases most of the time, so some guys get really really good at holding that conversation and hooking that bitch in. Women don't really chase and don't exercise that muscle. What happens when you don't exercise that muscle? That bitch gets weak! Metaphorically speaking of course. Put yourself in their shoes. If this monkey gets boring for whatever reason, I move on to the next dancing monkey. Plus, I got 12 more monkeys that can dance for me. I'm I saying women can't hold conversations? No you fucking retards! I'm saying men on average are much more adept at keeping the conversation going. One guy out of the 20 gets lucky, you sir haven't won the lottery. Why do the other guys get picked? I don't know, there's a million and one reasons. Take your pick! Funnier, wittier, has more money, hotter, race, height! Shiiiet, you already know! I will say this though. The hotter category is probably the most likely category to get picked.

Too easy... "Broads"... goes on to essentially blame "Broads”.lol I'll be nice and skip that. I'll just drop this little ditty that explains the mentality here. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AqrxgEln_Dw&pp=0gcJCfwAo7VqN5tD Short answer yes. Long answer no. There's no magic key or one size fits all answer. However, statistically humor is a huge Plus for both sexes. I would argue that it's not so much the humor as the compatibility or how well your humor meshes with the others. But again, there is no one size fits all. Any advice is only relative to whomever you are interested in and not every single person of one particular sex or the other. Take all advice given here with a giant monumental size grain of salt. Results May vary. Also, never compare what you think you have or who you think you are in comparison to another. You say others much more boring than yourself are in relationships. Well then why aren't you if you're so damn interesting? You don't talk? Well, there's your problem.

You try bringing a knife? https://media1.tenor.com/m/fYoFnY5ktdEAAAAC/thi-ra-may-chon-cai-chet-so-you-have-chosen-death.gif

^ Go with Lewd-Chad's. I think that'll work best...I mean, I've always liked cutting things since I was small (No, I don't mean people...ha, ha, ha.)

Calling me boring?! Wha... what the fuck did I do? LOL jkjk. But honestly? To answer the question, absolutely not. I use the Doppio method. By that I mean I get shy and awkward as hell and just all round ending up as your "shy good boy" type when talking to them. The whole Mommy kink thingy of mine kinda carrying there. I can be a bit spoiled and I'm a hard sub, so some think it's pathetic and weird and such, but others just can't resist a guy like that. Which is honestly a win either way in my book. ahem... anyways... The male being the weak one? Not necessarily a common sight, nor is it really many dude's thing, but some of the best girls out there really do find that irresistible. I'm just... sharing a bit of my story and what worked for me. Honestly just being myself. As much as myself as I can be without crossing any boundaries, while also subtlety expressing what I want and need in love. And eventually, someone that feels essentially catered to me comes along. Just being yourself is the best dating filter possible, period.

@forgetmenot Boring https://media1.tenor.com/m/CXsIEWMlv6kAAAAC/funny-mio-mio-mio-ni.gif

I'd say that it isn't necessarily about the pick up lines or "witty banter", it's more about a sense of humour and different people have a different sense of humour. It's basically if you're a guy and you can make a woman laugh consistently, there's a good chance she'll like you. That's the way it has been for me and I'm someone who thinks everything is okay to joke about and irl I practically have no filter. In fact, if I'm interested in someone, I will make messed up jokes on purpose to test if they're even compatible with me.