Can you get in a relationship without pickup lines or witty banter?

I've never used a pick up line in my fucking life, except when I was making fun of them, or making a joke at my own expense. Number of women I've longterm? 2. Short term? 6. Number of unrequited romances I've pursued? 5. Number of times I've had someone crush on me without even knowing it? 4 Number of women I've said no to? 4 How? Fuck it, if you think you have good chemistry with someone, say it early, then ask them if they're interested in exploring the option of trying to figure out what you are to them. It doesn't need to mean anything at that point. Putting it off too long is how guys like us get friend zoned. And while talking isn't my forte, my workaround was to DO interesting things with them so that I would actually have things I could talk about with them. I should ALSO note that... Yeah, at this point in my life, I've kinda given up on romance, and that's due to a myriad of reasons pertaining to my own shadow work and healing after my brother died, and also my feelings of having just missed my oppertunity. I peaked late in life, and just as I was finally starting to get into the swing of things, tragedy struck, I spent 3 years in a hole, and I was no longer that version of myself when I emerged. I wouldn't wish the me right now on anyone. XD

Think of “pickup lines” as jokes about your interest in them, rather than an incantation for removing her pants. If we’re talking solely from the straight man perspective, most women are attracted to fellas who exude self assurance and are secure in themselves. Most women will at least respect you if you know yourself and own it. Ultimately, dating is a numbers game. It’s kind of lame to talk about it in that way but it’s true. I had a friend in college about 9ish years ago (before apps charged for likes) who used to swipe right on EVERYONE. You’d be sitting down talking to him, and he’d look you in the eye talking while his fingers are rapidly swiping right on his phone. The dude would get dates, not all of them were gems, but he got more dates than anyone else. Lastly, stop thinking you’re trying to “get a gf” or whatever and just try to have some fun talking to people. If you have trouble breaking the ice, go make a note in your phone and lookup ice breakers. Even stupid one’s like “who’d have better foreign policy as President of the United States, Daffy Duck or the Fire Lord?” Or something silly like that, idk. Of course, take all this with a grain of salt, I haven’t had so much as a look from a woman in 12 years -_-

I hate pick up lines, that shit always gives me the ick and makes me think of fuckbois and cornballs just being cornballs but if that's how you are then be confident about it! I'll also disagree with the numbers game, if you want a buncha average or terrible dates then go for it, it might help you open up and be less shy about being on a date. Though I'd rather just try and find that one person you can connect with, enjoy it and expect nothing from it. At least then if something happens cool, if nothing happens then you're not disappointed and maybe got a new friend?