Describe Your Ideal Person

I found it disturbing Yuuzora's question list got so many likes but no one answered so I did. Although the last half seemed to be statements so I tried to answer them anyway.

My actual ideal wifey has a cheerleader personality, willing to support me and just be a positive fun person who plans stuff with me and does stuff.

I do wonder, if a person has mental disorders like schizophrenia, ptsd, etc. Do you think they should disclose that to long-term partners? Even short-term partners? My ideal person is someone who went through the same horrible shit I have and never let it turn them into someone completely selfish. I'm not looking right now, just because I know I'm too toxic to bother someone with all the bullshit I've got going on. My person will need to be intelligent in all three categories, but I've got enough emotional intelligence to be okay if someone isn't good about processing their own emotions. I LOVE sciences and art/music/creative stuff, so someone who appreciates those things will vibe great with me. Though I think a lot, I write a lot, I read a lot. I'm a more serious person but I have a dark, deadpan sarcastic sense of humor. I love a good dad joke, too. I can handle most other kinds of humor but the 'dirty jokes' or crude humor. Part of it is my upbringing but part of it is it's never been interesting to me. I can handle someone who is a neat freak, because I am also. But I can't put up with someone dirty. At all. Being around mess makes me very stressed and I tend to be irritable. I'm not mentally or physically stable enough for a romantic relationship; it takes me forever to develop romantic feelings anyway so I'm a slow burn to begin with. I am however deeply emotionally intelligent. To the point I volunteered at a suicide prevention hotline, a summer camp for kids healing from abuse, and right now I am the emotional support of everyone I know. So while I don't have any other stability, I bring an emotional support and experience to help people from almost everything. I would say I'm not as qualified for addictive issues, since I don't have an addictive personality. I'm also low-maintenance when it comes to attention. As long as I am on your priority list, I don't mind being lower than say your siblings or kids if you've got them. I would actually prefer you put them first, since having strong bonds like those is a good sign. I was raised "Irish Catholic"... so the mention of sex is something I'm not comfortable with. If we're on a level of trust I'll explain further why. I put it on the list since realistically that is something people will need to know about... My toxic traits are... horrible. I have a lot of trauma in just about every category. This leaves me to feel painfully isolated from others. "Always the connector but never the connected". I understand many kinds of people but so few ever bother to try with me. To some sense this is understandable... I have deep trust issues and a fear of abuse traits that if I sense them in someone I can become evil. I pick their mind apart... so a person would need to be very self-aware and be mentally tough enough to endure the possibility. I'm also an emotional thinker, initially. So I have to give myself time to think about things before responding to anything. I can be ungodly levels of stubborn but I can be reasoned with even if I'm in a panic attack. I do work very hard to be logical and remove my feelings to make objective decisions. I'm also a workaholic. Like... I am just miserable and bored on bed rest and I haven't had a day off since I was 12. My love language is primarily acts of service, physical touch, and quality time. I do not accept gifts from many people and talk is cheap. So those aren't really even on the list unless we have established trust and I know your intentions. Which is why on a first date, I'll pay for myself. So at least you don't waste your money if you feel it didn't go well. I hate the traditional idea of a date. It's boring to me. Let's have a tea party and sanpo(go for a walk) in a park or something. Maybe we can do some beach clean-up or something?

@yuuzora I think it's important if you're gonna be together with someone, I feel like it's good idea to be open and honest about whatever's on your mind even if it's about serious subject matter regarding dark stuff/mental health. Communication is the biggest aspect imo when it comes to relationships. It's big one for me, if my partner cannot learn to communicate with me i just don't see the relationship working out at all in the long run. For me like if i was in a relationship i'm not looking right now since i've been dealing with something complicated for this past month so i'm working on myself to put focus on my happiness first before i even think about relationships whenever that happens in the future who knows? Anyways! I feel like a good relationship should be based on equal partnerships. Disagreements from time to time regarding minor stuff are healthy in any relationship but you both should be able to compromise no matter what it is. As for like a first date, I agree i feel like doing something fun and casual is the way to go. I'd rather split the fare with whoever i was going out with. It's kind of like you're both doing a shared fun activity you're both interested in doing so it doesn't really matter who pays for what or that's how i see things from my point of view.

Can manage to actually make me uncomfortable. Let me tell you, that's no simple task. If they can do that... Might be taking a hit, but it proves a number of things to me. Dedicated, loyal, reliable, cursed sense of humor, and well, to have cursed/cringe humor, that means high mental capacity. Normal brains can't handle our shite. Edit: Basically a partner in mischief.

Ideal... That's an odd thing. Ideally, humans aren't what we truly want. What I mean is, you can't put a person on a piece of paper with a check list and expect to get a realistic outcome. I'd go more with, the "missing puzzle piece". My picture is almost complete and I can more clearly see now than say, ten years ago. I do believe I've found the piece that fits (*Ahem* THIS time.lol), even if there are some rough edges on the piece and the picture that need to be smoothed out. Maybe this piece isn't even the right shape, maybe I got the wrong puzzle... And maybe, just maybe, things are only going to work by smoothing out the rough edges and fitting it in, together. My picture is looking more and more like a Picasso by the day, but it's now OUR picture. Finding what fits, that makes a bigger difference. Sure, have your standards, but know that your ideals will probably never be exactly what you expected.