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I knew it! It's the government! The gay lizard aliens sent these ants to my office to steal our corporate secrets for the shadow government! *smack smack smack.*

A bit early for new year's resolutions, but I found something on the smaller side to add to my list. Improve my general writing skills. I've picked up on some bad writing habits I should work on when typing messages. I am remembering lessons from my English classes talking about not excessively using certain words or eliminating them. In my case, I use the word "just" too much and should cut that out. I know this may seem like an odd post or seemingly insignificant. But little stuff like this matters when looking towards self improvement.

Sweet slippery snow sleds, it has been cold lately. It is supposed to get below 30 in my area tonight. Gonna need some piping hot cocoa after work tonight. Should probably become a blanket burrito too.

Everything you say is true. And everyone should keep your point in mind. As you stated, no one owes you interaction, and you are correct. Anyone in the dating scene particularly should keep that in mind. But I should clarify the point of this post is not about personal rejection or people not wanting to talk to me. There are plenty of people here I have normal conversations with, no drama or whatever. What I described here is in a small fraction of my personal interactions on this site. But considering the social isolation issues a lot of society has these days, it is an interesting point to touch on. So like if you just didn't reply to a hello message, that is fine. Pretty straight forward declaration of Not Interested In You. I see no issues here. Everyone just moves on. But when someone sends ME a friend request, then they give a response saying they think having a casual conversation is itself a waste of time or an indicator of a ill-fitted person for romantic purposes, that's where something seems a bit off. That is a bit of context perhaps I should have had in my first post. The point is that having conversation and making an effort to talk to people is a pre-requeset to forging friendships or romantics attractions and such. Some people think you can just skip over that part, but no.

Another thing I've learned to add to this is many people I think have an unrealistic expectation of how easy actually meeting and building a connection to through the Internet actually is. This is not like developing a relationship with someone that lives in the same town as you and you could at least pass by them and say hello on a somewhat regular basis. You are limited to texting, you may live in places so far apart that both of you may find it infeasible to physically meet often enough unless you two are just already super into each other and ready to make the financial expense just to travel to each other often enough. Then there is general suspicion as to whether or not the person is a scammer or some dude in East Asia pretending to be a woman, a bot, gamification of the websites, ect. Before getting into those statistics you mentioned which are just standard in normal IRL courtship and rating who is attractive, online dating throws in all these other issues that IRL interaction don't have. Like striking a conversation with the barista at Starbucks you think is cute. At least I know the girl at Starbucks is not some dude in the Philippines trying to harvest information to sell to data brokers or other Internet shenanigans. Not an Onlyfans hustler trying to get money from me pretending to work at Starbucks as a rouse. She's just a normal everyday person working at a coffee shop. None of this other nonsense to worry about. Say hello, one of us flirts and maybe give their number, blah blah and so forth. Much of us are just not gonna have that straight forward with online dating. My conclusion: Honestly communities just need to start getting more invested in local dating / meet up events or something. Make more of an effort to strike conversation and get to know people that live in your community so you two can get friendly enough to hang out or something. Even if it does not end up in a romantic relationship, at least it results in more of us having a couple extra friends where we live.

Weird to see pizza in any way in the unpopular opinions thread. Pizza is the wonder food that accommodates people of all backgrounds and lifestyles. Rich or poor, vegan or carnivore, Democrat or Republican, secular or devoute of faith, pizza has a style and topping that will satisfy. Even those who would choose pineapple are welcome to its flavor.

This. 100% This. Whenever I feel bad about myself and depression kicks in, I look back on how myself and life has changed in just a few years. Keep doing what you enjoy, understand where you want to improve yourself and commit to small bits of development at a time. And you'll be surprised how far youngo in a short time. ♡