BDSM not just about boiking

Half of all marriages end end divorce. If you don't love her anymore, then you shouldn't be with her. You can still divorce and support your kids. Happiness does play a roll, but you have kids, so it's not just about you anymore. Your kids shouldn't have to know that you left the family to go around strapping on bondage gear to get whipped by a dominatrix with a riding crop. At least wait until they are 18 before you get divorced. Until then, buckle in and masturbate like the 81% of other married men. Cheating is never the right choice. That would be my advice.

@arc Instructions unclear, they are now bdsming with other married men and masturbating. https://media1.tenor.com/m/7bHAf8IZbxUAAAAC/kallemann-smestad.gif

Nooo... Sorry, dumb advice to wait on a divorce until the kids are 18. It's one thing if the marriage is being worked on and it's another when it's a miserable roommate situation. Kids pick up on EVERYTHING. I look back and truly think my parents should've split decades ago... Still hanging on... I guess it's outta necessity at this point.lol Stay for the kids? Noooo.... Ha...no. Split and be happy/healthier for them. Nothing like an electrical cord to show love, am I right? Aha... Sweet childhood memories from parents who stayed together for their family. *Sighs in reminiscing nostalgia* ... Ain't the same thing, but my main point remains. Be the best you for them ( Your kids first!) and yourself. Sometimes that requires hard and seemingly crappy options.

Gotta make the hard times of getting the fuck out. This ain't the 1800s where people were kinda forced to be with each other. One thing why I didn't want kids is because I can't give up that freedom and needs of my own.

@yaasshat Well I actually had first hand experience living through divorce when I was 4, so I'm just talking from first hand experience how it can fuck you up. Divorcing when a kid throws everything into chaos for them and should only be seen as a last resort if your issues just can't be sorted through at all. Its probably time to book the therapy appointment if she wont. Screaming and yelling is just as bad for kids. Last resort is divorce.

I get it, but I also understand the other side of staying together for the kids(First hand experience, too.). Neither are fantastic , it's all about what is truly best.

Mine never separated, but damn if I'd let my spouse beat, even once, my kids or constantly berate them. Meh... Even the guy who was , what I thought , supposed to be a mandated reporter, only asked me, a scared depressed kid, if I wanted to actually do something about it. No doc... Of course not, I wouldn't know where to start.lol I may still need a therapist.lol

@rabbithole Thank god, your not a bot! I owe you an apology and a welcome. But yeah, the flames of passion died out shortly before I joined. We have been getting some new waves of people recently though. Who knows? Say, anyone wanna find a man who's coughing up blood from decades of dust at work, and no longer carries the light in his eyes? What about a man who's primary source of social interaction comes from the spirits of the dead these days? Yeah, I wouldn't wish me on anyone. Enjoy!

I don't know maybe because I've lived a shitty life Im numb to all of societies rules and regulations. Everyone seems to be hung up on the cheating aspect and none of the happiness. Do you know how many ppl cheat on a daily? Your friends, family, co-workers, and acquaintances. Marriage, psh depending on your believes it's just a piece of paper. If it's worth the world to you hold it tight, mine has let me down and thwarted my career goals. Everyone puts a lot of worth on family, yet mine has screwed me over mother included. If my growth in life looked like little yellow balls, my own family and loved ones are Pac-Men. I know it's too much to ask an opinion of those that dont know the darkest parts of society that make you want to live in a tent/cabin in the woods just peacefully but hey I tried. Im not here to stay, I only wanted this groups opinion in the matter. It was clear to me in the first 4 replies I was not getting anywhere in this crowd. If your out to give another lecture on morality then dont bother. I will leave you with this. Cheating and divorce are such huge walls with sentries and guns and wire that I dont even dare start to climb either without a plan. Which I dont have. But therapy is a canyon so wide I know I won't make it if try the leap of faith. So I walk this fine ledge with an amazing beautiful view, with an edge that leads to a bottomless pit with hope or 2 dark treacherous walls that might hold a new beginning or more pain and misery for a lifetime. I just know if any of you knew what I have/am going through I know you would have snapped, cheated, or just chosen the wrong path without asking questions. This is me getting a general opinion of the anime community. This was me asking questions.