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Half of all marriages end end divorce. If you don't love her anymore, then you shouldn't be with her. You can still divorce and support your kids. Happiness does play a roll, but you have kids, so it's not just about you anymore. Your kids shouldn't have to know that you left the family to go around strapping on bondage gear to get whipped by a dominatrix with a riding crop. At least wait until they are 18 before you get divorced. Until then, buckle in and masturbate like the 81% of other married men. Cheating is never the right choice. That would be my advice.

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Nooo... Sorry, dumb advice to wait on a divorce until the kids are 18. It's one thing if the marriage is being worked on and it's another when it's a miserable roommate situation. Kids pick up on EVERYTHING. I look back and truly think my parents should've split decades ago... Still hanging on... I guess it's outta necessity at this point.lol Stay for the kids? Noooo.... Ha...no. Split and be happy/healthier for them. Nothing like an electrical cord to show love, am I right? Aha... Sweet childhood memories from parents who stayed together for their family. *Sighs in reminiscing nostalgia* ... Ain't the same thing, but my main point remains. Be the best you for them ( Your kids first!) and yourself. Sometimes that requires hard and seemingly crappy options.

Gotta make the hard times of getting the fuck out. This ain't the 1800s where people were kinda forced to be with each other. One thing why I didn't want kids is because I can't give up that freedom and needs of my own.

@yaasshat Well I actually had first hand experience living through divorce when I was 4, so I'm just talking from first hand experience how it can fuck you up. Divorcing when a kid throws everything into chaos for them and should only be seen as a last resort if your issues just can't be sorted through at all. Its probably time to book the therapy appointment if she wont. Screaming and yelling is just as bad for kids. Last resort is divorce.

I get it, but I also understand the other side of staying together for the kids(First hand experience, too.). Neither are fantastic , it's all about what is truly best.

Mine never separated, but damn if I'd let my spouse beat, even once, my kids or constantly berate them. Meh... Even the guy who was , what I thought , supposed to be a mandated reporter, only asked me, a scared depressed kid, if I wanted to actually do something about it. No doc... Of course not, I wouldn't know where to start.lol I may still need a therapist.lol