Gabriel

Gabriel @gabriel_true Ah, I see. To be perfectly honest I hadn't watched him in a minute (Nor am I subscribed, haha!) But he was the only virtual reporter I could think of.

secretagentboi @secretagentboi Perception, the word of the day

secretagentboi @secretagentboi My bad that's a reference to a game and I couldn't hold back

DEACTIVATED @swadian Hahaha don't apologize, anyone is free to contribute to the discussion

Gabriel @gabriel_true It has been said that how one judges another is by that same measure judged. It's agreeable to never ask something of someone without first being able to put that thing into practice. However, if one can do what has been asked and recognizes equally that within another then by no means would that expectation be unreasonable. I knew a man well who was never asked of for responsibilities. He aslo refused to apply his own sleeping talents for fear of failing. Last I was made aware that same man lays comatose with a bed he's never once made. Let us not be like that.

DEACTIVATED @swadian My approach to it it's more about... Hmmm how should I say it, I divide things between expectations and contracts. Expectations are whatever that you think about in your head though you also never convey to the other party, it's like a secret hope that they will do/behave/achieve something without them ever knowing about it, thus, it's toxic When your intentions and expectations are voiced then it becomes an agreement, why? Because both parties need to discuss it and reach a compromise on it, if they can't, then it means the communication failed and its still an expectation not bounded by agreeability

Gabriel @gabriel_true Ah, but one should not have to verbalize to another the need to wash dishes, clean house, or do their own laundry. That's an expectation no one needs to say aloud to another adult, but sadly for some, it becomes a necessity. Alternatively if someone shows up on another's doorstep with a plea for assistance and that individual has already offered great help previously, should there be no expectation for the one asking help to put forth their best effort in correcting their own situation rather than acting frustrated upon hearing the assiter's question of what plan that individual is willing to commit to?

DEACTIVATED @swadian I mean, most couples eventually reach agreements on who does what around the house when it comes to house chores, so it also falls in into the category of agreements. More often than not what truthfully happens is, one part will do a lot of house chores hoping the other will eventually keep up the pace but most likely won't, until the former explodes in a fit of rage. Just because something should ideally be in such a way doesn't means it will be in practice

Gabriel @gabriel_true Hahaha, fair enough!

Gabriel @gabriel_true You've caught the Duel Monster bug too, huh?

Under The Mistletoe @joemama711 Im tempted because it was 120 episodes i watched through and they made me feel sad over a AI vacuum cleaner lol.

Gabriel @gabriel_true Hehe

Gabriel @gabriel_true You are never banned in my heart!

Under The Mistletoe @joemama711 Haha <3 whatcha been up too though? What did you do with your break btw

Gabriel @gabriel_true I take it you're asking about my absence at the beginning of the year. I had posted a brief explanation of why I had stepped out, but I can say that it was anything, but a vacation. My father was arrested and was facing a double felony. During the in-between time of his arrest and sentencing I was having to run clean up on his responsibilities if only for my mother's sake. My mom has a number of health concerns both physically as well as mental. This dilemma wasn't easy on her. Which by proxy made things difficult for myself. Fortunately after months of back in forth with attorneys along with help from the victims a settlement out of court could be agreed upon which allowed the judge to drop my father's charges to a misdemeanor. Then right after that had been delt with wouldn't you know my sister's mom dropped dead of a heart attack. So on behalf of our father I stepped in again to assist her. That all aside. I survived to say the least.

Under The Mistletoe @joemama711 Holy crap thats a lot to have to deal, I can see why you would be away for so long

Gabriel @gabriel_true I appreciate you asking. It helps to talk.

Under The Mistletoe @joemama711 You're a good friend so i dont mind lending a ear

Gabriel @gabriel_true Speaking of ears, what's the news on your side of the internet?

Under The Mistletoe @joemama711 Hmm well besides trying to maintain a balance of not being deppressed and selfnloathing, still studying even though I question my abilities and life, works been rather inconsisent but i get paid well anyway( all last week except thursday and friday I just sat in a chair lol). Me and folks been going to the mall every saturday and im just tired, not sleeping well. I dont wanna cook or do anything really

Gabriel @gabriel_true It pains me to hear you're going through that. It sounds less like depression and perhaps something medical related draining your willpower. You appear fairly cognitive when we speak, so perhaps there is more to it than apathy?

Under The Mistletoe @joemama711 Ive never really been consisent with nutrition, exercise or self care, it could be something but im not sure and sadly dont have health insurance anymore, could be a multiptude of things but thank you for caring!

Gabriel @gabriel_true You're welcome. I've had various relatives share similar obstacles in their life. From afar I can only see what you've shown and despite any shortcomings that may have occurred you've also proven to me you are capable of great things. May your future be bright and this current present fulfill you, friend!

Under The Mistletoe @joemama711 Life is pretty rough as a adult even if you prepared you could be thrown a curve ball. I've somehow gotten myself out of every rut ive been stuck in so hearing that is very encouraging, I only hope the best for you as well partner!

Gabriel @gabriel_true What is this? Monster Rancher, idk...