Its still a bad term to use on a person over in Japan. I do agree the Murder Cases and random killings in Akiba didn't help out alot but its getting back to normal again.

Just got back from Tokyo a couple of weeks ago. Walking around the bars in Shinjuku and other areas around Tokyo till 5 in the morning and never felt unsafe. The only thing that I notices was the Nigerians trying to get us in their shady nightclubs, but they were just annoying and sometimes funny. Had one just walk up to me and look me in the eyes and all he said was "Tittys". Never laughed so hard in my life.

I have a slight anxiety disorder and chronic depression but only when certain situations comes up. If I date a girl who has anxiety/depression I don't think of it as a negative thing against her or in the overall date. I am used to that situation myself.

Other than English? I understand Tagalog and Japanese to a certain point, can say a few things in German. And I am learning how to speak Russian.

Its literally at your own pace personally. We can push you into the right direction but it is up to you to get out of your shell. Try being more social and outgoing. Hangout with your friends more, take everything slow and steady. Go in with the mindset you are just friends hanging out and having a good time.