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syaoran1
Sep 08, 13 at 11:16am
Hey everyone So I recently had my heart broken by a girl I loved from this site, we remained friends but it hurts to hear her talk about her new boyfriend, I want to remain friends with her but my feelings just get in the way, she wants me to accept the way things are and move on, but its hard to fill the void she left in my heart. Any advice?
wallace614
Sep 08, 13 at 12:58pm
Hehe cheer up it happens from time to time
augos
augos @augos commented on heartbroken
Sep 09, 13 at 2:16am
I have a no-friend policy with girls for exactly this reason unless we are BOTH unattracted to each other. If the affection is one-way either way, I don't want to get hurt or hurt others, so I'm strict about that. Try it out? Her telling you about her boyfriend while you are still hurting and expecting you to get over it is selfish, insensative, careless, and almost mean so why not cut ties, or at least take a break from talking to her until you really do get over her.
wallace614
Sep 09, 13 at 2:31am
Man just do what feels right no stalking though
syaoran1
Sep 09, 13 at 3:44pm
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate that. To wallace: I dont intend to be a stalker lol To augos: the thing is that she and I started as friends and after like a month she and I started dating, we got closer to the point where we knew each other and understand each other, so its teach the point where neither of us want to lose the other, so not being friends with her is no longer possible, as for her telling me about her boyfriend, half the time she tells me she rather not talk about it cuz she doesn't want to hurt me, but because I ask her how things are going, she tells me, I realize im contradicting myself by asking her of her boyfriend and gettibg hurt when she tells me, but if she doesnt tell me I start to worry about her, I just dont want her to be hurt is all
sugihara
S @sugihara commented on heartbroken
Sep 09, 13 at 3:50pm
Tbh you should probably do exactly what she told you and move on. The longer you dwell the longer it'll suck. Being friend zone'd sucks and this may sound like a real mean thing to do but you should just cut off ties. She knows damn well that she hurt you so why would you stick around with someone like that?
masonmay
Sep 09, 13 at 4:04pm
Syaoran1, your sentiments show you are a wonderful guy. I don't know how you must be feeling, but you should just not talk to her. Forgetting is the hard part. Don't be a shoulder to cry on, because it will certainly break you down even more. Don't be mean, yet don't be nice. If she is only talking to you at her convenience, she is merely using you as a crutch for her own esteem. She's certainly not doing it for you, so carry your relationship mutually. ♥♥♥'s for you!
sugihara
S @sugihara commented on heartbroken
Sep 09, 13 at 4:18pm
What this nerd said ^ ♥
syaoran1
Sep 09, 13 at 4:25pm
im honestly trying my best to move on, we are both putting effort to keep our friendship alive and its getting easier to talk to her, and yes being friendzoned sucks. I cant bring myself to cut the ties, we both made a promise to each other to stay by ones side, because both of us have a fear if abandonment, and I know its cliche to promise something like that knowing that I cant be with her, but me being a stubborn person I want to stay by her side, ive endured this much and Im sure ill be able to overcome my pain Shes not talking to me out of her convenience, she and I have been talking to each other everyday since we met and it still continues
sugihara
S @sugihara commented on heartbroken
Sep 09, 13 at 4:28pm
Well then, you seem like you're pretty adamant on what you want to do, so I don't really know why you asked for advice. Unless of course you just wanted us to comfort you and tell you it's going to be alright. <b>Which would be the truth, because it is going to be alright.</b>
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