How does one get over things

You're a mom? Now that's something to be happy about. I know the stress all to well (Dad here, single income currently as my wife stays at home for a bit.), but when you see your child smile (Should by now at four months.) there's nothing quite as heart warming. Take what time you can and clear your mind with even something as simple as putting your daughter in a stroller and going for a walk. Gotta clear that mind and find your zen. Sleep is laughable right now, I'm sure, but hopefully you have the support of loved ones to help you through it. In all honesty the only that can solve those holiday blues is a good mental shift. Get out and dont stay in(when you can). Find local meetups for moms with infants (They have them.) and just never let your mind dwell. In due time it will be just a past tense sort of thing. If you just need to talk, hit me up. Not to mention, there really are some good people on here, even if a little odd.:)

That's guys, I will try to make myself stay positive, I'm sure with time things will get better. I do adore her, she now is grabbing her little feet and makes her giggle like crazy, she's such a happy baby girl

It's truly simple. Not at all easy, Horribly difficult infact. But it is simple, if that is some comfort. Basically, 1. You force yourself to do what you used to love. Be it spend time with your family, go the movies, play a video game, make new friends, swim, ect. But you do what you love. Your passions. Since you have a young daughter, Spend some good time with her too. You may not have as much time as you'd like, But just make time when you can. 2. You cut yourself off from this person as much as possible. Delete profiles, ect. Anything that could remind you of them, Make them BEGONE. Trust me, you need to do everything in your power NOT to think of them. And anything that reminds you of them is bad juju. 3. Make yourself better. I know it's cliche, But seriously. Work out. Exercise, Be it simple cardio like running, or more indepth. Do it. It makes you feel better. Your body will release stress relief hormones, and you'll feel better about yourself. Work harder in your work, or passions, Just make yourself an even better person than you were before. Not for them, But for you. At first it won't seem to do much, But you'll come around a day, where you'll be surprised that you didn't even think of them once. And then you won't have thought of them for a week, or two weeks, and finally years later, something will pop up to remind you of them, and it won't bother you at all. Good luck. And cheers for your daughter.

Stay occupied to keep your mind off things it helps eventually you just move on on your own it takes time but you can be happy again

Well I get over things pretty easily, but definitely being with friends and people who care about you is a definite boost as well as doing things that make you happy. Try listening to 10 hours+ videos of natural ambiance with your eyes closed (obviously not for the full), it takes you to another place. Working out also boosts positive feelings about ones self. Also try eating your favorite foods (without over-indulging). Also try reaching out to people you haven't heard from in a while if you know they enjoy you. I'm sure there are other ways, but those are my couple of cents.

After a good amount of reflection, you should stay busy. It doesn't have to be work or studies, but could be something like a hobby. Inspiration from loss or heartache can turn into something beautiful... just ask all those famous musicians/singers/composers ;-).

One goes to Hentai Haven :v On a serious note the posts in this thread has covered many good points so i will add something too but definitely helpful.. Going to gym and exercising can help! When you exercise you get energized and get an adrenaline rush which tbh solves most of the depression and other negative feelings! You will feel refreshed and will forget every sad feelings momentarilly! Not to mention the health benefits compared to other unhealthy methods(eating all you wish). I used to use this method myself and it actually justifies the quote on gym centres 'A bad day can be made better by going to the gym'. The alternative to gym can be any physical sport which you like and can invest your time into like badminton, tennis or swimming :)

I do like swimming and walking, I just have to figure out how to be more active but also have my baby with me, soon I won't really have anyone around to help with her so I'll be pretty screwed haha but fingers crossed. Thanks for all the advice everyone.