Personality or looks????

A guy should like you for you! Not for looks but personality,if he can't see what a great person you are then he not for you. I was not happy with myself or my body,so I decide to go on diet and do daily exercise,I did this for me and not for any guy,I wanted to change myself and be healthy! 6months later :D I feel better and have more confidence in myself and enjoy going shopping. For me Guys looks somewhat matter,they have to be cute to me,not to anyone else lol. Personality too I love geeky nerdy guys >w< I hope you feel better about yourself!

I have the same problem. What ive learned from this is that you are the only person who cares about your appearence. My advice is to just live life with as little regret as possible and to do whatever makes you feel better. That's really all you can do so i wish you luck on your journey while i take mine :)

I've learned this lesson the hard way, but APPEARANCE does matter. I've used to think personality had more importance, then I realized that you end up building your appearance according to your personality. How much time you spend on your appearance can be a show of how much you care or look forward to meeting someone. Of course the point is keeping a balance and don't losing yourself in either of the extremes. I've realized I care for the appearance much more than I originally intended to and it hurts, but the looks are part of a person too! Still it seems like disregarding that part of the person (the looks) is fine but hey, if you disregard the personality it looks like you are fake. When you say you don't care for the looks, you are actually "accepting" the looks and loving the personality. You take the risk of being naive and feel less attraction for your partner and so not being that satisfied about your relationship. When you say you don't care for the personality, you are actually "accepting" the personality and loving the looks. You take the risk of being shallow and having trouble while you live together because you don't understand each other and so not being satisfied with your relationship.

We are not perfect, everyone has their weaknesses and strong points, but they do come in a pack, whether that guy and you accept the whole pack or not is what has more chances to work out. What you show on the outside is a reflex of what is going on in the inside. I'm not much confident about my appearance either, but I don't think you are the only one who cares for your appearance. People won't look at you the same way and won't treat you the same way. Think of it as a way to feel better not as a sacrifice you must do in order to attain a certain social status(which would be having a boyfriend in your case). I say you find a guy who likes you for your looks and personality, who loves you for who you are ALTOGETHER. I would strongly encourage you lose some weight in a healthy way (yes it's a titanic task, I know) so you can increase your confidence in yourself, that way not only will you be potentially more attractive to the opposite sex but you will be happier with yourself. Both things are related. By healthy way I would say, maintain a healthy body mass index(BMI), there are certain values of overall weight according to your height that have been proven to be more attractive to males in general. They are those which are associated with a good health which doesn't look like a coincidence. Stay hygienic and exercise, it's difficult to get the hang of it but the hard work pays off. Don't get discouraged because ours bodies have a strong tendency to defend their BMIs to death, so if you want to start a diet or add a change in your exercising habits, you will have to keep that somehow permanent to stay that way. Answering to your question, I've learned there are guys of all kinds out there and I wish you good luck.

Hmm, i would have to say, Looks. Personality is awesome, and such. And it's needed in the relationship. But I say looks in the action of, if you don't like what you are looking at, then you wont feel the need to be with the person or the desire to spend time with them. Why? because it's how it is. Most relationships are done in the subconscious before the action is taken. So normally you wont go out with someone you don't find attractive in some way. If you are, your probably just playing them. As for weight, remember that if you feel ugly then you portray that. If you feel beautiful, then you portray that. In the world, there is always going to be people who like or don't like something about someone. So, Working on yourself first is the best first step. Then, when you are more self confident about yourself. You can then move to the next step. =) Good luck.

I say its both, there has to be both physical attraction and mental attraction too. A good balance of the two rather than being one sided.

Ya its both but u can pull off being on the heavy side just no tight clothes or short dress or stilettos weights fine personality is a huge thing too u just have to find the right person :) good luck!

I think it's irrelevant if you're overweight, but if you have a great personality and it imprints itself in my impression of you, then I completely disregard how you may look like. Even down to your face. I can ask myself, "Who was that person I just met yesterday? Did they have brown eyes or blue eyes? Meh, whatever. They were really nice/funny/knowledgeable about physics or anime." But normally, people don't dig others with appearances that put them off. If it looks like somebody is not taking care of themselves, then it could indicate mental problems, and nobody wants that type of drama. -_-