Confessions

@Neko It makes me sad how true that is. I'm only 19 and I'm already feeling some kind of pressure. I'm already no longer looking for the prefect person, but a person I can see myself spending a lot of time with. Someone tollarable. Believe it or not, but I'm a very romantic person. I'm also a realist, though

Sanfi lol who is going to come out? Prob panda

@Neko SO TRUE! If you put it in the one time, why not again? Unless you were really drunk when you met that person and find them to be utterly annoying

@sanfi my first serious girlfriend was from here she lived in pennsylvannia like a ways from florida but it felt like we were meant to be but i mean guess i didnt mean that much cause she started hanging with another guy there and after a while it wasnt about missing me but him. then my second serious gf was like obssessed with sexual stuff she was a perv and like wanted to do sexual things and im like ok thats nice but what about getting to know each other?

Well, what we see today is more of an open sexual society. It's one of instant gratification, and pleasure. Having sex as a means to relieve themselves, just like masturbation with only a temporary fix of satisfaction; right after you're done it's done. Love, and passions are two elements which I look for. They seem to be largely missing in this modern era. I've had my fair share of fun, and exploration, but people should seek to find a significant other eventually. What we have today is a big mess, single parents, broken families, and moral decadence. I'm in full control of my desires, nothing in this world isn't without consequences.

@Neko I don't look at it as cynical. This actually makes me kind of optimistic. How many people are out there that I'd like to spend a large portion of my life with? I bet it's more than the amount of soulmates running around xD It gives me a bit of peace. Expectation and I don't go together very well ^^ @Sun I was just kidding. You said you were confused while we we're talking about sexual orientation. It was like a goal without a keeper, you know? xD

Merc I think what Mango was asking though was fucking vs making love which doesn't necessarily mean "one night stands". Could be wrong. But that's how I was thinking about it. When I talk about sex and/or fucking, I don't necessarily mean that it is sex with someone new or sex with strangers. I think of them as different actions. The difference is love making to be more focused on the emotions, and be in the moment with the feelings. Sex/fucking is more of a focus on the physical aspects of it. BUT - both can be intimate. I think of them as just different kinds of intimacy. Love making there is eye contact, maybe whispers of sweet nothings, it might be slow and movements have more purpose. On the other hand the sex is more focused on trust and openness with your partner. You might be exploring each others bodies or exploring each others' pain or comfort zones. Just fundamentally the same but slightly different. And as said before, not insinuating sleeping around by any means.