"The Dangers of Being a “Nice Guy”

I read this article and I just need some guys to wrap their brains around this and tell me what you think? http://otakucrush.com/articles/2010/03/13/the-dangers-of-being-a-%E2%80%9Cnice-guy%E2%80%9D/

Thats pretty interesting. I honestly wish I had read this about a year ago, as I went through that "girls like jerks, so I will be one! D<" phase. Not worth it. It made me miserable. I think the trick with "nice guys" is that we tend to be... shy? It's scary to take that first step and say "Hi, you are beautiful. I would like to see you again."

True True! the last date I went on totally was as the article said, he would tell me negative things about himself and when I stopped dating him he told me "I should have been a jerk to you maybe then you'd like me more" whine, whine etc. And yeah it's a waste for guys to be shy, when you actually talk to girls it's pretty much like talking to your friends. you don't rly have to do much for us to talk, i'm not kidding girls will do the talking for you.

Yeah the girl I like has a thing for jerks/mean guys and being a nice guy is my disadvantage I guess. I thought about changing to that attitude but felt like apart of me would die since I couldn't honestly be a jerk to someone I liked :|.

It's just like the article said, I think most girls like a nice guy, just not a nice guy who expects too much. Girls may not like nice guys not because they are "nice" but maybe because of other elements in their personality. For example, Guy A is a nice guy, but he's too shy and doesn't really confess how he feels to the girl. Or, Guy B is a nice guy, but he tends to be too prideful. Stuff like that. More girls may have a relationship with jerks, but more often than not, break up with the guy soon after.

I, for the life of me, can't be more than just a "nice guy". No matter how hard I try, they either want to just be friends or don't "like me like that".

If the girl can't like you for who you are then it is not worth it. Also on the opposite, is it not universal to be a nice guy to people even if you don't much like them, three strike rule always works well for me. After that i stop being nice.

For every girl that likes a jerk, theres one that likes a nice guy - thats what I think anyway. Seriously the best bit of advice I've learned for dating is to be yourself - I tried being someone else before and in the end I broke up with her cause I couldn't keep lying to her.

I love nice guys tell me you'll cancel a game night to take care of me when i'm really sick & you have me hooked for life. I'll worship the ground you walk on when you put me first.

Now thats the catch, when a guy put a girl first. You tend to bend over backwards hell even fold yourself in half then all you get for going full throtle white knight is the object off your devoution geting annoyed or freaked and dropping you.