"The Dangers of Being a “Nice Guy”

I really wish I had known those things zerofivenosh said. Me not realizing those things screwed up my relationship with my last ex. I was too submissive and tried too hard to do stuff for her. Thankfully I still have a while to go to get it right lol. And I do think the "nice guy last" crap is both overused but true most of time. woldnt say im the "whiny" type but i do become a doormat easily :/. Gotta work on that one.

@roukuro - Winner right here, yeh I realized you need to find a balance in both to get better results in the dating world.

i have a finely tuned balance between being nice and caring and not giving a fuck i have no real bad side but it works for me and it comes in handy when people try to take advantage of your kindness or friend zone you just be like pshh and walk away like i dont know you.

I think there's a difference between being a nice guy where you're generally doing nice things without expecting anything out of it and being a "nice guy" where you do nice things expecting some kind of return

i hate those guys they make guys like us look bad ive been asked why are you so nice? more times then i can count what kind of question is that im nice because im nice i dont want anything out of it its not an act or something i can turn off.i knew a scumbag who will remain unnamed who used to pretend to be nice to get with girls i used to fight with this person a lot and i was labelled the bad guy right up to the point when it was too late.all because i wanted to protect the girls he was using. he told them that i was pretending to be nice so i have a lot of issues towards people who pretend to be something they are not for selfish reasons.i think what i mean is if your going to be nice be nice to everyone not just girls either that or dont.personally manipulation should not exist(this comment is not meant to offend)

Personally when I was younger I was "too nice" at times, really too nice. So I stopped caring about a few things, modified my fashion style alittle bit, and before you know it I am getting numbers and going out on dates just fine. Be nice but be willing to take control and lead the way. YEh you can be a jerk here and there but show kindness too. Its really hard to balance at first but once you hit it, your good to go. I am not going to give the girl the "Princess Royal Treatment" but I will give her a nice day to hangout.