Getting to know people

Ok, so I honestly feel I saw a post like this here in the past but honestly can't find it atm. Any advice for someone who is quite shy messaging people can try making friends on the site? My biggest problem is I feel like I can never make the first move even though I know logically that's how it goes but mentally I can't (I do feel that some of that could maybe come from my paranoia) from the few small interactions I've had with others in other forums here I really enjoyed talking to but consciously I could pull the trigger on sending a message from the chat. I know it might sound like a big excuse or pathetic (feel like I am pathetic) just feel like I'm just going to be a nuisance to people and feel guilty on it. Sorry for the longer than needed on the easy enough to answer question but once I get going it's hard to stop (both online and IRL)

I mean 90% of this website's user base has a similar dilemma. Being unable to hold a conversation for more than a few passing memes. So I wouldn't take it personally if others seem reluctant to speak up at first. Hell, sometimes I get responses months after I posted and forgot what my message even was. From my view, everyone lives in their own head. Only coming out of it every once and a blue moon to say hello.

Not to trying to sound rude but I'm kind of glad in a way kind of reading that, not that it's a good or healthy thing for us I guess but knowing that you aren't the only one in the same kind of predicament does relive a bit of the stress and anxiety.

Usually the cycle you're going to see is a few popular accounts get a fair bit of buzz with some randos in the background recruiting people to their Discord. People that go Discord rarely return here except to post a meme and then split. Other than that it is mostly mods talking to other mods to keep the appearance of surface level activity. Then you got me who doesn't belong to any group but creates their own fun. Anyway, best of luck out there!

Thanks for talking to me about this man really did help quite a bit and that is a bit unfortunate but at the same time I guess as long as people are getting out there and with how massive a thing discord is guess it's expected in some ways.