Venting..

Invincible but not a gentleman I'm afraid. but in all seriousness I'm just sharing my piece, relationships are such big complex things which is something that I only woke up to very recently.

NecroDoll @necrofantasia This place has mislead many many individuals in the past, frankly MO isn't any better than other dating sites, if anything it's just slightly more dangerous since there's tons of individuals here only lurking seeking victims. Never have too many expectatives of anything, instead, just hope for the best and push forward with guts

Ahh, I see. @Matchesia @Swadian holy shit.. I didn’t know about that part. Thanks for the heads up. And i’ll push myself forward at this point, since this has been brought to my attention.

When I joined the site I was in a kinda similar mindset. I felt lonely and hoped to find someone or whatever.....buuuut things has changed since. I don't think it was a good mindset, there are more things in life where to get happiness, so nowadays I don't really worry about love and try to not think about it. Luck has a big part in finding love, so for now I worry about myself and the things I can do on my own. You know how when you lose something, keys or whatever and you can't really find them no matter how hard you try but a couple of days later you are doing something completely unrelated and you easily find them? ....yeah, I think that's my mindset for love too.

Feel like you shouldn’t really look for love. Through genuine friendships and chemistry, it’ll naturally show itself. Pushing yourself out there might be what hurts you instead of benefiting from it.

Yes. One shouldn't be searching for love actively. You can increase your chances by being available (easy to reach) and improving yourself.

I feel like putting yourself out there is fine and you do hear of success stories on dating websites and heck even other places. I think the mistake is lowering your standards and getting desperate. Not directing this at OP, but more you can visibly see desperation and it radiates off the person. Once somebody is perceived as desperate, your options of love close considerably. Your options only decrease more when you begin feeling self pity about being single. I had a short time where this was me this year because I realized I wasted so much youth not caring about relationships and it really just hit me at once. However, looking back realized I actually CLOSED potential options. So, yeah. Its okay to put yourself out there in my opinion, but there's a cap to that. Keep your standards and keep that chin up. Don't allow yourself to lose that self respect because its a death shot in dating imo. Im inexperienced, but feel my theory is right.

@Makotole @Deri @LilyYazawa You all are absolutely right. You all have really good points. And, to honestly admit, I was very desperate about this kind of thing. That’s why I was so hopelessly expectant of finding something like that. But.. I’m going to have to take a HUGE break on here to get myself together..

Getting tired of being told “ya know not all girls are gay” I’m like no faking duh ya faking cabbage tell jimmy over there not all girls are straight either but noooo no one tells him shit bc he just might be the one that “changes her mind” like tf then i might be the one to show your girl how she’s suppose to be treated like a god damn queen