about Preferences...?

It's a funny world we live in xD A person who truly thinks they are open to anything or puts their preferences behind just to have SOMEONE be with them is likely not going to be too interesting. Maybe they would rather have someone than no one. It's a shame when people think that way about themselves. That they have to make all the compromise just to have someone in their lives. But hell, I don't know all of them. Some are still getting to know themselves and they might not be too firm on what it is they're after just yet. I can see a situation where some people might just be farther along than others and already know what they prefer in a partner and thus have little patience for someone whose still figuring it out. It's very easy to compile a list of all the things you have a "no" to. But preferences are hard to nail down at times because they are subject to change. You can think you like long hair and go find someone who makes short hair work well. Or be into VERY confident people but find someone who may have self doubt but still manages to warm your heart. Hell, to think of it sexually you might be unwilling to try something or not enjoy it with one partner but someone else might make you feel secure enough to enjoy it or might do it in a way that works for you. Or it could be Tuesday and you're feeling it more than you were on Sunday. Humans can be incredibly fickle things. I do agree though that if you do have a clear preference for a partner then OWN it. As it is mentally straining to put on a mask and pretend like something doesn't bother you. And eventually the mask will come off.

I can be a bit long winded at times but yeah. Resentment will build as you convince yourself that there's no way that your partner would like the real you and "if only they could" you wouldn't have to put on an act. you start blaming them for your decision to be a faker and yeah you'd end up getting angry at your partner. It's just easier to find someone who loves the genuine you to begin with. But yeah I can see not wanting to bother with someone whose made NO thought towards what they are seeking in a relationship. Someone in their early 30s should at least have some ideas about it. That said...no need to rush it. One of the most fun parts of a new relationship is getting to know someone and to a degree having an open mind about it. boundaries? Of course, but being willing to come out of your shell and be a part of their world as they are a part of yours https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/f/f9/Part_of_Your_World_spinning.ogv/315px--Part_of_Your_World_spinning.ogv.jpg