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Guys with mental disabilities don't make it anywhere in this world.

yaasshat
Nah, you're good. I think I was having a stroke.
solid_snake95
Ohhh are you good now?! I hope so! Your skepticism gives this site life!!!! QwQ
shadowduty7
I have no idea what disability you have, but where you end up in the world is entirely dependent on you, what you want, and how determined you are and what you're willing to do to achieve it. Mental disabilities makes life much harder and can vastly discourage said person and lower their self-esteem, especially since some even make it so that you have to rely a lot on others for help to get by, but that doesn't make it impossible for people to get far in life and accomplish what they want to do. It all depends on the individual's outlook, goals, and what help they're getting for their mental disorder. Many will have different reactions and treat people differently based off of what they know about the person, so its natural for a lot of people to treat those with disabilities different, even if its not what you'd want...cause the majority just don't know how to react to or treat them. Of course, shaming or ridicule for your disability is entirely different than pitying and not knowing how to treat a person whose special, and is never okay or something someone should put up with. As for how "men would kill for some females", sure, a lot of people, particularly young people, wanna have sex, experiment, and spend time with someone they find attractive, as many both males and females have standards and boundaries, but not every one of those people are making it their sole duty to get laid rather than look for something meaningful like friendship, a relationship, or love. People have boundaries, standards, and self-respect for that very reason....so that they don't hookup with every guy or girl that seems nice or okay, despite only knowing them for a few weeks. Its not like every female's naive enough to spread their legs for every asshole that wants a good time with their body....and its not like every male wants to establish a friendship with a girl just so he can have intercourse with her. I wouldn't deduce that you're a Nihilist that doesn't believe in anything or think nothing matters as Lamby did based off of what you said....cause, to me, you just seem like someone whose pessimistic that has a low self-esteem, nearing a cynical outlook on life due to your disability and people not treating you the way you want them to because of it....thus, is why you have the belief that women don't go for you and why you think all your problems will disappear or suddenly not matter when you do find said love interest (if what you said in your info is accurate), which isn't true...since that's only your projected grandeur image of what your relationship will be when you find said person, rather than being realistic....relationships help carry the burden since you have someone to support you and be with, but it far from erases any burdens alone....even though I don't know of your disability, my advise is to lower your current standards for a relationship and instead set realistic standards for lover interests, determine if you have any other stereotypes (like how "girls always go for the bad boys who pretend to be nice", or "men would kill for some females", or "girls never go for nice guys", or "I want to find someone to make me whole") and reflect to yourself on why you believe them, and to not expect others to not treat you differently because of your disability....nor is it something you should be afraid to tell others to begin with, not that that's an easy thing to do....cause the fact is that many people will treat you differently for being special....yet, that's not to say that a vast majority of those people will dislike you for it....Tyrion or Jon Snow from Game of Thrones are good examples of handling being treated as different....one's a midget and one's a bastard....yet, both grew up to be influential and powerful in their own right due to accepting what they are with pride, despite being treated differently and even ridiculed by others and even their own family for what they are. https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d0/13/f5/d013f552bb813697ac620f40f295e140.jpg As for finding a love interest....best you can do is to just live your life, change and better yourself, and see if you can find someone that'll love and accept you for what you are along the way, rather than linger over being single and blaming it on all sorts of different things, whether it be others, your circumstances, the world, or yourself. Cause if you start seeing that other love interest as a half to your whole, rather than as another individual that brightens up their life as much as you do theirs due to mutual respect, responsibility, and trust...then you're just using them to try and fix your self-esteem and ignore your own faults/problems, and let me tell you...eventually, if I were to humor what'd happen next if this followed through and you did end up with someone you'd currently find ideal, you'd eventually start expecting it to be their job/duty to love and help you emotionally, all the while you start ignoring or belittling what your partner wants and feels as time goes by due to how you've grown to make them that second half of yourself since you don't love or accept yourself, so you'll start making it their responsibility. It's nasty. Don't go expecting someone else to love you if can't love yourself....or you're setting yourself up for a helluva tragedy and dark view of people and the world. So change. Cause finding that someone is gonna be all the more harder and traumatic if you don't respect and love yourself first. Cheesy, I know, but self-respect and self-esteem is something many struggle with (especially on this site IME), despite how vital it is.
cupcakerin
I dunno, the only thing I understood is having special needs screws you over because nobody like people with special needs??
siruboo
unless you find someone like you, its possible but you are probably going to be a lone the rest of your life.
solid_snake95
Some women get off on wheel chair men as a fetish lmao
shadowduty7
@sirugoi Yikes dude, have some hope. If everyone had that kinda thinking there'd be a lot more discouraged virgins out there.
momoichi
i mean statistically speaking you wont die alone, so maybe thatll help
hakutaku
(¬㉨¬) Counting on other people to rescue you from the situation may not be a wise idea! Because it may be difficult for many people to tell if someone is actually nice,reliable and caring^
siruboo
ive been rescued before and it doesnt really help maybe for that day but it comes back. thats just me though ive rescued myself comming up with ideas about the trijunctional city and later that day i was not good. it has to come naturally because bad thoughts and then really good thoughts makes you tired.
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