online dating is hard help

It's not fun but pretty much everything that's been said here already is true. Dating and especially online dating is not easy. When it comes to love, more often than not it's more of a game of letting it come to you. The more you try to chase it and make it happen the more likely it's not going to happen and if anything does come out of it it's probably not going to last. I believe that it's true what they say about it finding you when you stop looking for it but I think that's more because you stopped keeping track of of how much time passes by so it seems like it happens sooner rather than later. Chances are that whether it's on his website, which has had some success with people, or anywhere else you are going to find someone eventually. You're also likely to find a couple people that you are interested in but are not interested in you or the other way around and they show interest in you but you're not really that interested in them. I know I've had a few of those. It does take time, if a relationship starts and under two weeks then that something you should be wary of. Always take things slow especially when you don't feel like taking them slow. If the other person can't wait then they aren't worth getting into a relationship with to begin with. Yes I know that emotions can be incredibly strong, incredibly quickly sometimes but still the waiting rule works out very well. One of the worst parts about love and dating is that you never know what exactly is going to make you interested in a person. Sometimes you will have a lot in common and you just won't feel that tug yet other times you'll feel a tug and you have no idea why. That's why it takes patience and sometimes y its best to just let love find you because there's a part in this that nobody can understand which ironically is the most important part and it will as they say happen or it just won't happen.

Yup, just relax, go in with absolutely no expectations, take your time, don't treat it as a vending machine and just enjoy the ride. Online dating sites are just tools and should never be thought of as your last resort. Besides, you're twenty, what are you worried about? Get out more, young buck.

Thank you all for such good advice yeah I just need to take things slower I feel. I've been rushing some things but I just need to get to know them and such and wait. Also yeah It's hard but I believe if I keep trying I will find someone who wants a committed relationship and has the same interests as me as well.

One more bit of advice, dont ever think "I will find someone. " think "If I find someone. ". That's the difference between, "I dont need to focus on me, but I do need to focus on them." and "I need to be prepared not for them, but for myself.". In other words, there are no guarantees in life, but you can improve the journey for yourself.

There's a lot of good advice in this thread here. You kinda have to remember you're also looking for the same thing about at least 2/3rds the other guys on this site are looking for as well, and you have probably at least a two to one ratio of guys to girls. It's not gonna happen over night. Girls will message you and then stop replying. Just keep messaging people and engage with them as you can. Take a genuine interest in their lives. Keep the perverted talk to a minimum. It could take months to find someone, but just keep chipping away at it.

can confirm getting a body pillow is the correct play here preferably one of your waifu