Do you take responsibility for your breakups?

Do you feel at least partially at fault for relationships that didn't work out? And if so, then to what extent? Also, are you male or female?

If I feel there's something I could have done and that it was my fault then yes I try to take responsibility and see where I went wrong. Although if it's all on the other person or if things just didn't work out despite the fact I did everything right I take responsibility in the fact I chose the wrong person and strive to choose my partners better next time. I'm very unlucky when it comes to relationships and getting ditched is pretty common for me - but I think taking steps to see what went wrong and how to prevent it is important.

I believe that both parties can be at equal fault, that is of course if there was sufficient enough evidence to show it. If you were the aggressor, the important thing to look into the outcome, is what you can learn to help improve yourself for the next relationship, or to bring yourself back together to the previous one to start anew. If it's vice versa, the same concept should be considered. This is partially the reason why I put up the topic on changing one's self to benefit the others' well need. It's the whole reason why we learn to grow. P.S., I'm whatever you want me to be. Huehuehue

I'm a Male. I take responsibility where it is due, and that mostly pertains to the relationships that didn't happen as opposed to the ones that did. But to say I was in no way, shape or form responsible for the break ups I initiated would be to arrogantly declare myself a perfect being completely devoid of self awareness. I have never had a track record for cheating, but have been cheated on for what I was not providing. I have told white lies to avoid unnecessary drama to reaction prone individuals, but I won't pretend that lying is a virtue in any right. Though as far as I know, I have never been labeled a liar by any of my exes. I still remain friendly and on talking terms with my exes as well, so i've had chances to try to get feedback, but its hard to get the little things I did wrong and tips on how to be a better boyfriend when all they seem to remember is the one big thing that they did wrong. But yeah, its the things I don't do more often than the things I do do that seem to build up. Maybe that's why people tend to find my faults so forgettable.

Of course. I can only assume I'm doing something wrong, even when it doesn't really seem like it. It's the only thing that makes sense.

I always take responsibility even when perhaps I shouldn’t. I have only had long term relationships (one for 5 years and the last one over 12 years) if you do not count school. When the last one ended I got the whole “it’s not you it’s me speech” (you’re so great, I’ve just changed, blah, blah) and looking back it is pretty clear that she was seeing someone else for a few months before she ended it. Even still, I take responsibility as had I noticed the signs sooner, or perhaps done other things differently, things would have played out differently. I guess my point is that since a relationship is between two people only rarely can it really just be one person’s fault so it’s always wise to think what one can do better. It is how we grow as people.