Silent Treatment: Appropriate or abusive?

Do you think that it's okay to freeze out your partner when you and them have a major disagreement? Or is it abusive/manipulative to you? Personally I see it as abusive to try and get your partner to change their behavior by essentially telling them that you won't communicate with them unless it is entirely on your terms. I also see it as immature to be unwilling to communicate as adults and accept that people, even people you care about, might have strong opinions that are counter to your own. And to be unable to respectfully dissent shows that you have some growing up to do. But what do you guys think? Have you ever had someone try to give you the silent treatment? And if so then how did you respond? And to be clear I'm not talking about needing to take some time and then coming back to discuss something after both people have calmed down. I am referring to partners essentially giving you an ultimatum "Either accept that I'm right/apologize or I will not talk to you again" From my perspective, better to walk away.

I say walk away as well, it's not okay to do that to your partner when it comes down to that. It can really mess with someone and yes it is immature to do that. If you can't talk it out like adults and they resort to using "The Silent Treatment" against you, then just go and don't give in, like Ed said, it'll just repeat itself the more you give in

Hmm. There is another option up there. "Im giving you the silent treatment until you are willing to discuss the problem." I have known a few couples where there was an issue that one was trying to avoid or ignore, and the guy or girl would give the other the silent treatment, until they were willing to talk. Basically i believe it comes down to the intent. If they are trying to give the silent treatment just punish you, then walk away. Silence so you can cool down i get. But some dont inform you that they want to take some time, so they just do, so it kind of adds to the stress to the partner.

It depends. There is the silent treatment which is used to avoid lashing out and saying something more hurtful or something you don't mean at the heat of the moment. But there are some people who use the silent treatment for very petty situations... and they expect you to be some kind of mind reader and just "KNOW" what you may have said or did to offend/upset them. I feel that it has its ups and downs depending on how you use it.

This pattern of attachment: anxious-avoidant I think both should figure out what cause the major disagreement and look for a way to reach agreement.

It's immature, for the most part. Bordering on abusive depending on the situation. Especially if one partner is willing to reconcile, but the other maintains the silent treatment. It's one thing if things get heated one partner disengages in order to calm things down, but if one partner is saying "Hey, let's talk," and is met with deliberate silence, that's immaturity, full stop.

I've always hated the silent treatment, it doesn't solve anything and in some cases can make things worse. It's very immature imho so I feel it's always important to talk things out as much as possible and work out those differences as soon as possible like reasonable adults. It's fine to want a little bit of time away from your partner after an argument but as long as both parties do their best to resolve the issue then I think that's all good.