Do you believe in marriage?

This reminds me of a piece of advice I received not too long ago. "You know -Name Redacted-, you're already 20, you need to go out there and find 3 or 4 hot blond white girls to date. Whenever one of them starts to kvetch to you just move on the the other one for a bit. Then when you're bored of all of them go and find a good rich Jewish girl to marry, a lawyer or a doctor maybe. After that just sit back and do whatever you want to, just let her do all the work for you." So yeah. If a millionaire suggests it then I don't see what could be wrong about it.

Interesting perspectives on this. I would have to say there is definitely a difference between being and not being married. I agree with Fox Queen, i think its a testament of commitment and shows responsibility. Obviously in the early stages of dating it doesn't matter as long as both partners respect each other, but if there is any intention of maintaining a relationship long term and committing to a certain individual, there needs to be a symbol of this commitment that holds both partners accountable and bound to this relationship. Nothing wrong with not wanting to get married, but i don't think you can have your cake and eat it too...i don't think it's fair to date someone for years and years without showing them some sort of commitment. I get Cero's perspective too, a lot more guys specifically have become quite cynical towards the concept of marriage, such as Men Going There Own Ways (MGTOW) movement. You never know what can happen a couple years later down the line, this can go very wrong very quick and you would never expect such things could come from your partner. If something were to go wrong, i would have to agree with Cero that a guy does potentially have a lot to lose (settlements, child custody battles, even criminal investigations if extreme accusations are made). I guess this is a bit of a hopeless romantic dilemma. The real challenge is finding someone that you can trust 100%, knowing that they would do the same for you. All the more reason why i like Kirito & Asuna's relationship, its ideal. But real world struggles definitely make that seem very far fetched in reality.

i believe its a serious decision that too many people take lightly but it is the logical next step if you want extra rights with your partner and tax breaks i do believe marriage should be harder to accomplish (with no monetary barriers though) and divorce should be harder to file aswell

Marriage is a serious thing, yet many people take it lightly. I guess I don't believe in it 'cause it brings more daunting consequences than real gaining and I'm not talking about money here... It's just some people are not cut out for that. So this kind of people do not help you grow as a person, or fill your life with peace and goodness. Instead they turn it into a living hell where there's only despair and sadness. Why? There are many reasons, to name a few: they do not respect their partner, they don't like commitment, they are selfish, they are abusive... I do not deny the fact that there's some people who can make it work, but usually it takes real determination to achieve that from both parts and that's a work to be done everyday, and tons of love from each other. People change and what they liked one day,they may not stand it the next one... I wouldn't recommend to dedicate your valuable life time into a quest for this ideal relationship 'cause real life is full of ups and downs. Take it easy and just live your life true to yourself and along the way you may find someone to walk with you.

Personally, I have a somewhat "MGTOW" mindset but that doesn't mean I am against the idea of marriage, etc entirely. I am very careful of who I choose as a life partner due to the past experiences of getting fucked over by people who I once claimed to be "friends" and/or trusted. Kind of why I develop this "Fuck it" attitude when others starts bullshit with me. Anyways, my ideology in marriage is this, "If you can still love the person past their wrinkles, grey hairs along with insecurities and flaws yet still work things out", then that's true love." Many fall in love through looks which I'm not saying is entirely wrong but if that's all you're in for then shit ain't gonna work out. Anyone "attractive" can be a dipshit as well. Before, I was not entirely considering marriage because of how the court system is unfair to men. Especially in my state since it's full of liberal cry babies, etc. Women can cause more harm to men using the court system. I ain't gonna let that shit happen to me so even if I feel that something is a little off, I'm not moving forward with the individual. Marriage and non-marriage do have a bit of differences. Quite a bit more than just a "status". Marriage have benefits but that also varies on the area you're from. It's just up to how committed the individuals are to go to the next phase in the relationship. It's a serious decision that should only be considered if both feelings are mutual.