Can People Change?

Certain people can change at certain life situations, I've seen people turning around their life. But in my opinion the only people who'll never change are cheaters. That's about it.

I've seen lots of people make major or minor changes in lives. Religious people who have lost their faith, and some atheists who have turned into hardcore Christians. I think it's possible for people to change, but it depends on how much do they want to change, whether they need help, and a bunch of other factors that a psychologist is much better equipped to explain than I am. I mean, there have been former KKK members who have disavowed their connections and are deeply regretful of their past. So even people that I think are incapable of change have proved me wrong.

Yes and dont let anyone tell you that they cant. It might not be easy and a person might stumble multiple times in the process of changing but its totally possible. Anyone who says otherwise is a cynic. I worked at a transitional housing shelter for homeless drug addicts with mental disorders and you would think if anyone was not going to change it would be these people. Granted many of them didnt and they simply went through their time there only to go back to living on the streets but there were still plenty of others who essentially turned their lives around in 6 months. Again its not to say that these are permanent success stories and they likely all are not. But when you see someone who is addicted to crack, homeless, and without a job, turn into someone who is passing drug tests, working full time and then moving into their own place, thats some powerful shit. Again if a person in that situation can do it, there is no reason that someone who just wants to treat others better or to lose 10 pounds cant do the same.

the only thing that apparently doesnt change, is war. "war, war never changes." Heres to hoping there are people out there who get that reference haha

Yes. As a narcissist they tell you can't change. They even write it in there books that there's no cure. But, I'm to stubborn to believe that. Who said we can't change? Did the person who came to the conclusion study somebody who has had his humanity offended by the disease. I know one thing I will never give up. And, that's on nindo. Believe it! I'm already aware I'm in my awakening. The hard part of gathering data is behind me. The what's to do the what's to think the how's to act. I'm finally awakening the how's to feel off the data I gathered and being around people I care about while proccing myself with questions on what should I be feeling in this moment while also remaining there for the moment until I find the answer inside of the moment to stabilize and elevate the moment with the correct mind and heart aura matching the situation. There's alot of noise in a mind that doesn't want you to depart from the flesh. So, it usually takes alot of siffing through my thoughts till I find that one signal from the heart then I have to remember it and cherish it and not let it be corroded. Like finding a needle in a haystack. But, I will find all of them I was left with no choice. I was not made to tear people apart. You got me fucked up. If I can find 1 signal I can find 2 If I can find 2 I can find 3. Heart fucked up by showing me it can be heard. All my searching you don't know how much a fragment means to me. I will never give up. May God help me succeed. I will let all the people I hurt push me into a madness for sanity nothing is impossible through faith in Jesus. For he strengthens me. I wouldn't have this drive for perfection if our savior wasn't such perfect love example. I'm happy it says we can strive to be like him. Because overtaking flaws is such a joy I don't wanna stop. I'm glad we can strive for such a thing as perfection and do our best to try and reflect Jesus and our Heavenly Father Character. Praise The Most High.

Idk going to find out. I will be leaving the site. I realize I'm not competent enough to interact with normal people. Maybe I'll come back when I feel more human and I actually talk to people instead of ranting about my self and my views. Something made me not trust my narcissist self again which lead me to want to leave here and go discover more mechanisms so I can prevent them I already made multiple breakthroughs. But, yall have seen enough of my bullshit so I won't share. Sorry for trauma dumping. Sorry for sharing unasked for views. Thanks for tolerating a narcissist.

@willworkforisekai If it's worth anything, I think a part of your changing for the better is/can be the fact you're so willing to talk about your experience. I know I don't really ever comment on your rantings/findings, but I DO read them, and I've seen how you know/say from personal experience with yourself and other narcissists, that it's extremely hard for you all to even mention any slight wrongdoings you may have done. This is not me saying there are or are not healthier ways to do this, because if you truly feel like what you need to do is leave, I don't want to stop you from helping yourself. However, I hope you don't beat yourself up about being open about this topic? Especially as you HAVE stated before you are only so passionate because you never hear those like yourself being honest about the struggles of narcissistic personality disorder. And, just because you may struggle a bit more in an area than 'normal' people do, it doesn't make you a monster or less human than I. Thank you for being so open about your struggles, and I truly pray that you continue to find yourself as the man God intended you to be, just remember that your surrendering to Jesus is all he needs from you and the rest of the healing will come in due time. I love you and thank you for gracing this site with your beautiful presence, Isekai. ❤️

@wei_ying Thank you for your kind words they mean alot. I think imma stay but just chill on the rantings for I have put everything is in God's hands finally and give up the illusion of control. Thanks for reading my rants it's nice to be heard. If I can fight hard for narcissists healing I just imagine how much God fights for us. And, I leave it in his mighty and capable hands. Imma just try to be chill here and talk about anime and stuff and relax a little.

@willworkforisekai Of course! And that sounds like a good plan. I hope you are able to relax in the ways you want to then. ❤️