A Question On Death And Loss

Death isn't something I regularly comment on but we all have to nake peace with it somehow. Some choose to live in fear trying to stave it off, some repress it and live in denial. Some cling to violence in an attempt to assert power over others thinking that will somehow translate, and hell some people accept it and don't let it bother them. But whatever poison you pick it happens. Kind of a heavy subject. Seems like something that either a lot of or very little people will chip in on. Most people aren't really comfortable talking about death from what Ive seen.

It really depends on how close I am to that person whether how much that person's death will affect me. Luckily no one ever close to me has died, but one grandmother and a grandfather died which I knew. Their dead didn't really hit me. I didn't really had a bond with them, nor did I really know them. Others were grieving, but I just felt like an insensitive person not being capable of grieving. I let more tears out for the pets I've lost in my life than to those grandparents. If my mother would die though, I would be devastated. The same goes from my best friends, my brother and sister. Eventually I'll be able to live with the pain and find comfort with others who have gone through the same. As to a spiritual/religion thing, I don't think that death is the end, just the beginning of something new. That you feel grief and sorrow shows what that person meant to you, not that death is bad. We'll all die in the end.

iv almost died a few times poor alternate reality mes with others dying, i never really know how to react if theyr human i also like to think of what yoda said, that we shouldnt pity them but be happy theyr in a better place i also believe we should celebrate a life and not mourn a death

Life is about living. Sure, there's pain in loss, but at some point comes acceptance. You'll never forget your dad, I'm sure, but I'm sure he'd love to know that you've moved on. It's like this, funerals are for the living, the dead no longer care. That pain you felt (And to some extent, still carry.) doesn't have to be a burden, rather a memory of good times that will be missed. If you can look back on your memories of your dad and smile, it's all good. In a way, he lives on thru you and those he left a mark on. We all heal at different rates, but to continue and build a life full of vitality,strength, perseverance and happiness, that's where it's at. In other words, to move on is to live and I'm sure he'd rather you have a life that's alive and growing.