RACISM

Ed That's.... actually not a bad idea... I did that when I went to Japan & Spain... learned the language just enough to order food, go to the bathroom & run to the exit

Having a preference in dating ethnicity isn't inherently racist. Love is a complicated and imperfect thing, we all have something that turns us on. BUT when you like a certain ethnicity because of behavioral expectations, that's when we get into the racism part. In my experience, I get more than enough guys telling me about how they'd expect me to be subservient to them because Asian women "treat their men right". *blargh* I felt a little sick just typing that.... Humans stereotype, that's just how our brains organize and predict information. We all have biases, but it's important to understand why do we think that way and work on not letting our jerk brains make us into terrible people. On another note, this is really making me want to relisten to this program on Radiolab "The Voices Inside You" where they talked about, in context to how voices you hear mentally can both help and hinder you, how stereotypes we hear often tend to become self-fulfilling prophecies

No amount of sociology is going to change the biological nature of what you're attracted to. There's nothing wrong with being more physically attracted to one race than other. However, the problem comes with the person's attitude. If you are closed minded to dating somebody just because they arent your physical preference, that is pretty shallow. If you really like a person, your physical attraction should be secondary. What matters most is character, and if you can't overlook somebody's race or something about them, then it is a problem. And no, I'm not saying that sociology and racial discussions are irrelevant. I'm not saying that at all. However, I am pragmatic, and realize that a person's physical biological biases are going to outweigh what society should tell them to think.

Were still on the attraction thing? Its prejudiced at best .... nowhere CLOSE to legitimate racism If someones not attracted to a certain race that is their right. As long as they arent rejecting in a hateful and discriminatory manner causing actual harm (that isnt the hurt feelings of rejection) then how the hell does it even touch the level of racism. If you believe romantic/sexual preferences alone are racist you are severely overreaching and dillute the strength inherent in legitimate racism.