Long Distance Relationship

Opinion? Experience? Love story? (I'm that person who loves romance and affection... I had thought of love as inconvenience.... It makes u more fragile... More vulnerable.... But think about all the good things and feelings it can bless you..... I felt more weak as i had fallen in love.... Idk maybe because i know someone has my back... I dont have to act tough anymore.... Don't have to act that i'm doing just fine even though i'm not.... It's so nice knowing someone could still adore you even though.... ...You are a mess .... And in dark times...Having someone that means so much to u, miles apart, is hard... I want to do :) all the cute things other couples do... You know like hug, cuddle... My bf is giving his all though! :) I'd love to hear from people overcoming :) distance, continuing :) their love to flourished and stay strong!)

It only rarely works if the couple is going to be apart long-term. It takes the right people. I don't mind if it's going to be short-term and I've met the person irl. But you can't be sure how you feel about someone and if a serious long-term relation would work without knowing the person in real life. People love to romanticize relationships and say things like only the personality and emotions are important but there are practical things that need to work if you decide to have an in person relationship (unless it will always be online and you don't care about physical contact). 1. What if the person smells bad or has chronic bad breath or snores really bad? 2. What if you have a high sex drive and they have a low sex drive or vise versa and someone will always be sexually frustrated? 3. What if you can't get along with their family or they hate you for some reason? 4. What if they are messy and don't share house/cleaning chores? Just random examples. You can't buy a car or a pair of shoes without trying it out first and seeing if it fits. Or if you do you run the risk of it not working out. I just notice that lots of younger or inexperienced people here romanticize relationships too much and often fail because of practical issues they never consider. But long distance relationships can work under the right circumstances with the right people. It's just not my thing. I'll stay friends with someone till I know something more serious is likely to work out irl.

I had never been a big fan of LDR .... He was an exception.... I thought things like this through (the ones u mention above) .... I am not someone to look for a certain physical appearance.... My dad snores loud i can hear it from upstairs yet my mom still loves him.... They were far away from each other ... For a long time being only bf and gf at the time... Dad was away 5 years working in Canada till he finally got us in here.... I know i have a high sexual drive if he doesn't i could always compromise ..... Seriously there'll always be flaws in people..... I totally respect how you feel... It's really optimistic and realistic.... But idk :) maybe my relationship would be "the ldr that :) will work over the huge chance it wouldnt..... " As long as both are truthful and giving in efforts... Nothing is impossible... It's like saying to someone ..... You're dreams will never come true as it is unlikely to happen.... But if this someone works hard for it! Why should it not work? I got in here not asking relationship going as far as posting it on my info but here I am.... He worked hard to pursue me ... I kept telling him ... I dont do LDR... I dont want a love life... He proved himself.... I will work hard to not let all his hard work go to waste....

LDR aren't too bad if both individuals are willing to meet in person at some point. I'm currently in one and do want to meet somewhere next year. However, how things are currently for us both, it appears we're not ready to meet yet. Of course, one of us will have to move over one day if we want the relationship to keep going. For me, It's undecided but for them if they decided to move, then I'd do the best I can to have them feel at home. I agree with Loli_Vampire. You never know how someone is really like in person so they may not be compatible at all, etc. I even thought of some negative aspects and considerations but even then, I still want to try. After seeing how things went from their end, I understand how they feel so they can't give me their full attention all the time. The not getting along with family part always happen for me but so far just with my friends. Some of my friend's parents dislikes me because "I'm always trying to be a smartass" or something. Really, I'm dumb as fuck. Now for the snoring part, haha... that's pretty much me. I snore loud so I'm afraid of being a nuisance if I visit someday. I don't want a tiny fist hitting me in the throat. Plus, this magical unicorn appeared unexpectedly and what's funny is that I was gonna go through some really depressing ass heart break because of something before I met them. This person have given me some surprises; appeared when I was going through a somewhat severe depression which will become a depressing heart break, me coming out of the shower and seeing a little confession from them but... I was getting a bit embarrassed from the confession as I was nude and also confessed my feelings as I was nude... yeah, it was a bit awkward but heart warming, made me feel a lot that I thought I would have never felt for someone, seeing how our humor are pretty similar so I finally can be that weird person. I know there's that saying that love comes unexpectedly but jeez, how this happened was really unexpected. xD Well, there's my thoughts and experiences thus far. I can't say I've completely fallen in love yet but I do love them A LOT. If they do something to make me fall in love, then I'm all theirs. I had a shitty, depressing year but they were the best part throughout the whole year and I hope I can do the same for them.

LDR should be nothing more than a placeholder for an ACTUAL relationship later on down the line. After that's established, it's a matter of patients and seeing who caves first. Personally, I'm against it unless one of us is gonna move soon. It COULD work, but only for so long before they either have to meet or just do away with the whole thing. So yeah, bad idea.

Long Distance Call is expensive. Long Distance Relationship is even more expensive. Instead of losing money, you'll be losing your precious time that can't be recovered unless you got lucky and got Mr.Right. How long Distant is this relationship anyway. The farther it is (oversea), the harder for it to be realized.

I was in one for about 7 years. It can be hard when you're younger though. Money and commitment is what it boils down to. If it's truly worth it then you both will find a way to see each other. I know in my case my transition into manhood came when I worked my ass off to fly her to my location. Things didn't last later, but it taught me that you have to bust your ass if you want something. It gets to a point where talking about seeing each other is just "Talk" till someone steps up. The lessons and work ethic I gained from that, have taken me pretty far. At this point in time I wouldn't mind a LDR, cause I'll just hop on a Greyhound lol, it's cheap and I like the adventure of meeting new people along the way. Best of luck to you two though =)