Dating is tough lol.

So I've dated a few times recently, but I'm thinking of giving up for now. cause I seem to be getting pretty consistent "Not interested" responses and it always seems to be for the same reasons. which are as follows 1. I don't own a car and girls apparently don't like having to pick up their date. 2. I'm 29 years old and girls apparently like guys to have more experience than themselves and because im a bit too old for as much inexperience as i have it seems to be a big turn off. kinda hard to gain experience tho when the fact I don't have it seems like a girl repellent. 3. I'm not particularly well off. I'm still in that "getting my life together" phase of things. I'm working as many hours as i can get at my job(full time, overtime when i can manage) but im currently living with roommates while i save for getting my own place. I'm a diligent, responsible worker, but I'm not quite "there" yet as far as financial stability. there's other things like my slight social awkwardness and other personality quirks but the above seem to be the main three. I dont think these are illegitimate reasons to Turn someone down for a second date, so its not like I blame anyone for not being interested, but these things will only fix in time and there's really not much i can do to speed up the process. so I'm thinking I should just give up on relationships till later when I have the things girls apparently want. or have I just been unlucky? are there any girls out there who would consider a "not quite together but getting there" guy who tries hard to get where he needs to be? or is it just a hard truth that the guy in the relationship has to have everything set BEFORE the relationship starts. I don't mind waiting I guess. I've been doing it since forever so its not like It'll kill me. Its just I'm making progress in other areas of my life and I'd like to try and make progress in my love life as well if possible. Sorry for the long post, guess I got carried away. O_O this is what happens when I stay up late. My mind vomits all over my keyboard.

Was pretty much my situation at that age. Most girls want a guy that's well off, just how it is. One option is to seek out less popular girls. Most attractive and sociable girls know that can have about any guy they want. So they are picky. If you look for girls that have social anxiety and/or low self-esteem, they are more likely to not care about your situation and will just be happy that any guy is interested in them. The drawback being that once you are in a relationship with them, the relationship is harder because of a variety of emotional problem and depression issues they may have. The best bet is just to focus on other things in your life and keep an eye out for a girl who you like and may like you. If you aren't well off then your options are limited.

It's just the reality of life, as cold as it sounds. Trust me, it doesn't make me feel any better when people tell me that either, but what more can we do? Youre a good looking guy, better than me. I say youre lucky any girl even acknowledged your existence. The only girls I ever got were online (and let me tell you, its so much harder...) I did have real life relationships (like 2), but they never lasted more than even a few months. I dont really want to rant my life story here, but what I am saying is, yes, dating is tough. Heed the words of this lonely otaku ; Let fate decide, or let fate guide you. A relationship takes two people to put in effort, and if youre the one putting in much more of it or they rarely try, then it is clearly not the right person.

@loli&anon Yeah I think you're probably right. I'm prepared to keep on trucking as I have been. It'll happen eventually I hope. lol. @Yuki I actually like hearing people's life stories. I'll share a bit more of mine. I've had one IRL relationship that lasted about 6 months, and 2 Online relationships which each lasted about a year. and you're right, the online ones are much harder, cause you get the same feelings of wanting to be near the person, but you cant. so that sucks. I do sometimes get girls to acknowledge my existence, but I do have my "I feel invisible to girls" moments as well. I,ve even had a girl roll her eyes and walk away as she saw me approach to try and talk to her. ouch lol. It is indeed a harsh world sometimes in the realm of relationships. all we can do is keep moving as best we can I suppose. I'll be rooting for you if you'll do the same for me. xD

sounds like a good read. I could also write a book about mine even though I have so few. but that's just because I use lots of words to describe everything. lol

Animekirk, It just sounds like you're better off getting your life together. I got lucky, but I'm not that far off in life than you.You seem to have a good attitude about it and that's the best way to do it. When it happens, it'll happen and there's no sense in feeling rushed or pressured. I mean, you don't have to give up, but focusing on life goals will be better in the long run.

Agreed with yaasshat. After all, think about it. I would actually like to have some things in my life to achieve. If I want to work at a certain career (bad example, yes), I personally feel it would be best to achieve what you want to do first. Prioritize your own goals, and let that special someone show up in your life herself. Believe me, there's girls who just straight out wouldn't like your goals, or will hold you back, and you just wouldn't like that. I know I'm ranting on a little here, but the point is, we just have to try to be patient no matter what.