Dating is tough lol.

Maybe. I dunno. for me personally, living has been relatively easy compared to matters of sex, romance, and other forms of intersexual relations. :P Not exactly easy, but relatively so.

Fix your own issues before, unintentionally, passing them on to prospective partners, for example if driving is an issue, save for a car. Once you get your life in order, things'll slowly fall into place.

yeah a car is an issue for social/romantic stuff. but in all honesty it's practically a low priority. i don't need a car to do anything like get to work, shopping, banking, paying bills, etc. all of that I can do easily without a car. the car would be a big cash drain PURELY for the purpose of "not seeming like a loser" to girls and within social circles. and honestly that's less important to me than having greater cash flow not being spent on insurance, gas, and maintenance.

And thats fair, but a car also opens up more options for you, depending where you live, I suppose. A bit easier in larger cities, but if you're just a small town boy... (livin' in a lonely worrrrllld...) *cough* sorry. anyway, if you're in a more rural town, not having a car can really hurt your potential chances of finding a partner.

yeah I agree with you there. Its definitely on my list, just not at the very top. though that might change. who knows. :P

So, my 2 cents: 1. I wouldn't like to pick up a guy during the first couple of dates for the same reason I don't want anyone picking me up, I can't bail if things go bad. But that's just me. 2. Honestly, I don't think a lot of women care about how much experience you have and we can't tell anyways if you don't say anything. But I notice that people who are older and who might not have as much experience as they would have liked tend to kinda let that define themselves and then everything like body language, their tone of voice, etc. just sort of broadcasts that you're not comfortable with yourself. 3. I hate that whole, "Women only like money" excuse because that's really all it is. An excuse for your brain to write off women as being selfish and shallow so that you don't have to do any self-reflection. It's not really about how much money you have but what do you offer? Like are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Then what do you do to show that? It's not about "how do I get a job" but rather frame it like, "how do I become the person that employers want to hire". I don't turn guys down for what jobs they have or how much they make, but I do turn them down if they're all talk but no action. A lot of dating problems really do kind of go back to honest self-assessment and having to make your jerk brain recognize that you might have to change for your life to change. Otherwise, you're just stuck in a rut.

I appreciate all the input everyone. :) @Xueli, I wanna make it clear almost none of what I've listed has been assumption. It's stuff taken straight from the horses mouths. I've had several girls, some ive dated, some who were giving me advice specifically tell me those three things were my biggest shortcomings in finding a mate. The girls i date who have told me this usually do so after the "just gonna say up front I'm not interested, but dont worry you'll find someone who's into you" and then they proceed to try and help me I guess by outlining these things as we proceed to talk about relationships in general since it's now obvious that one between the two of us is off the table. If this sounds odd it likely is lol cause I tend to bring out the strangest conversations in people. I think it's my tendency to be straight with people and my general dislike for games or dancing around topics. I can appreciate, and even believe that you, and several other girls out there don't care much about money, if that's what you're saying. but I don't think the "girls care too much about money" thing is an excuse, it's a stereotype. And like it or not lots of girls believe it and admit to it within themselves and assume it of other women. So it's not just guys making excuses. Many girls I've met openly admit to "how much does he make" being a very important question to her when deciding on a partner. So while I personally don't assume all women care about only money, I do think a statistically significant portion of them do care quite a bit so having more money does indeed raise a guy's chances with women on a broad, general scale.

Just get a silicone doll bud. Real people aren't always honest anyway. In my entire life I've only met one female that was fully honest and I thought she was awesome! She was harsh and cold but honest non the less which I liked so damn much. She was 40 something though but an Asian! I like Asians xD Anyway no one really cares about you unless you can offer or bring something to the table that they want or like. This same problem is happening in Japan in a way with men not making enough money to support the female. Every time I talk to someone I always get a vibration of them not carrying unless they can get something from me. The main reason why is because not all humans get along. One way or another you will find something you dont like about someone or find something you hate about them. It's a cycle that seems like it's never going to go away. Which is fine but it makes it feel like there is no reason for me to live. But that's a different story. Forget getting a girl and buy a silicone doll. If you want I can send you a picture of my doll to give you an example of what they look like. They feel the exact same way as a real female :) The recent doll I got though is fucking heavy xD She is so damn cute though :)

LMAO Luminous. Your reply is awesome. a Silicone doll. lol brilliant. Caught me off guard. I agree with some of what you say. bringing stuff to the table I do think is important. It makes the most sense anyway. I think it's kind of sad to give up on human partners completely though. Sending positive energy your way, dude. :)

Or don't do the above as that doesn't do much of anything... The person above is either sarcastic in his post or has an extreme trust issue. Either way, his "suggestion" shouldn't be considered, as its geared for the desperate and/or pathetic.