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you know something have been on mind as over late when i like going out or working long hour the question coming up why don't have a gf of bf i say i don't need one but don't stop asking the question say that i be happier one. i like to ask is normal not to have and will my happy with one the opposite cause i like to know.

I kind of understand it. Something has been on his mind lately. People keep asking him why he doesn't have a bf/gf and he would be happier if he had one. Is it normal not to have a bf/gf. Something like that. If that's what your trying to ask nope you don't need to be with someone to be happy and who cares what other people say.

At age 21, its very normal for a guy not to have a girlfriend. Actually, its more common for women around that age to be looking for guys who have developed their skills, social networks, and general lives more, meaning its hard for younger men to stand out. (Unless you're in college of course, then you have a much easier time, because you're still on an equal playing field.) From my experience, and the experience of many of the people I've observed in life, a relationship doesn't inherently make you more happy. It further amplifies where you're already at. If you enter a relationship with the motive of feeling happy, you may get that new couple euphoria for a while, but once that subsides, if you built your happiness entirely around one person outside of yourself, then they have control over you. And when power dynamics get unbalanced, that's a recipe for disaster. If however you have a good relationship with yourself, and you enter a relationship with someone else who has self love, then your happiness does amplify to a degree. This is of course a gross simplification, but still something that should be considered. You should only enter a relationship when you can look at yourself in the mirror, and like the person looking back at you. Not out of narcissism, but out of the sense that you are your own friend. And of course part of developing self love is understanding that you don't compare where you're at with where others are at. I hope this makes sense.

I see a weirdo when I look in the mirror. I'm not sure if that's loving myself. I don't care about anything though, just live life without thinking much about it

I am 28 and don't have a bf, a lot of people think it's odd, but personally I'd rather be with someone who's right for me or no one at all. There's no such thing as normal when it comes to relationships and people....

I agree with everyone here. It's ok to not have one or want one. Relationships are alot of maintenance and sacrifice. They shouldn't be wasted on undeserving people.

Don't get in a relationship if you do drugs or drink a lot or if your cutting yourself or your missing something in your life. I agree relationships seem dumb. I like friends because you can have fun

You're still pretty young. People aren't getting married as early as past generations and the expectations of getting out of school and getting married are less these days even if there is still some pressure by certain peers and family. Personally I want a relationship but I've become much better than in the past of accepting the fact being single is ok. Waiting for the right person sucks but I'd rather stay single then settle for someone I might not be compatible with or dont have really strong feelings for.