What are you looking in a friend?

Someone who is nice and can cheer me up when I'm upset. Be that awesome person who's there for me while I am as well for them. If they can supply me with beef jerky, 50 points. Maybe have some similar interests.

what the fuck? You guys actually vet out friends? i don't. I don't look for anything in a friend. If me and you vibe, fuck the reason, we vibe. Not gonna look for some trait to connect with or see if you also like anime & clubbing. No. If you and I meet up and, for whatever the reason, we click then we're good.

Sorry to rain on anyones parade in this thread but that was bothering me. I dunno the intent of this thread but it came out that you guys only look for people that are like you or have things that you like in a person to be friends with and that's some extra closed minded shit. 0/10 not cool to me. That's like me being friends with only black people cause I'm most comfy around them. Sounds racist as fuck doesn't it. Well when you say something like "well, they have to like ________" you sound almost as ignorant. Like we can't be friends cause I don't like Call of Duty or can't be friends cause I don't like to do weird/silly shit with you all the time. Get your fucking priorities straight and grow up people. If you only chill with people that think like you you're not in a friendship, you're in a cult.

Healthy communication Edit it's good to have people as friends who don't think like you, keeps you active in your thoughts rather than in a bubble.

I somewhat agree with Kichi. While it helps to have a common interest to connect over or talk about, making that a requirement for friendship ist just wrong. On the other hand, "just" the clicking with someone else wouldn't be einough to, for me, personally, see them as friends. That would be more like an acquaintance to me. Friendship is something that develops over time. As said before in this thread there are a couple more things that play a role in friendship. I agree with that. Loyalty, communication, interest in each other, being there for each other, and interesting things to to do together or talk about. Those are all things that I look for in friendships. Now as I said, these things will mostly develop over time, as long as you invest some of your time into spending it with someone else. The clicking that Kichi mentioned is essential for actually WANTING to spend time with another person. At least in my opinion it is. I don't have many, but good, and well-chosen friends. And only 3 of them I would blindly trust.

@Max - and that's cool. Everyone looks for loyalty and honesty. That's the basis of any friendship. That's me saying I like food that fills me up and tastes good. Well, no shit. It was the "gotta have this and gotta have that" that bothered me. This isn't about looking for a significant other. It was about friends. If you were looking for specifics in a friend as well as a significant other, your doing extra. @Tale - it's not your fault. You simply asked a question and got your answer. I was simply blown back by the responses. some were cool and some weren't. And honestly, this wasn't that bad of a thread. I just went looking in other threads that were similar after this and saw this repeated over and over and I'm like damn, no wonder you otaku are single. you don't even give people who don't think like you a chance to befriend you. It's exactly like dating. I have my personal preference for what I want in a woman but I'm not gonna turn down a chick simply cause she's not my ideal woman. There are some things you absolutely canNOT do, but that wasn't the question. Be that as it may, the main reason why a LOT of people are single is because they're looking for specifics and when they don't see it, they disregard everything else and move on. Talk about can't see the forest for the trees... jeez. Well, I guess this just opened up my eyes to why a lot of people don't talk to me on here. Clearly I don't have that whatever you look for in a friend. Please, keep your distance from me, you close-minded idiots. Heh, you know what I look for in a friend? someone who's as open minded as I am. How bout that?

Kichi, I look for the same thing, open mindedness. I'm huge on loyalty too. It's like I told a friend of mine last night, if you are my friend, you are family. I honestly have a hard time opening up/making real friends, but when I do, it's because there's something that I see in you that makes me trust you. Everyone is entitled to want certain traits in a friend. I mean, not everyone can or will be friends, because not everyone can click due to differences. For instance, I would never be friends with a racist, even if we clicked on many other things. But, I think this thread just encouraged the thought process of making people into ready to order things and kind of took the humanity out of it. But, if some people have unrealistic expectations, I know we won't click and more power to them.