How do you rebuild yourself?

When something in your life shatters your beliefs, the way of life you've lived until now. How do you have a new start in life? What were your personal experiences with life changing events?

ive kinda had a new start in life recently. I'm not wishing I was dead anymore. that's good people helped me out. people on the internet, people in real life were pissing me off

same here. i was released from rehab for anorexia last April and my gf was cheating on me the whole time and kicked me out of our apartment coz i didnt pay rent the 3 months i was inside rehab. i moved to montreal now and my support group + therapist and my crush here in MO helped me tons. if your looking for nice people in the internet you came to the right place XD XD

I say fuck them I do what I do and you can't change me. You can brake me but you can't change me. However my most personal changing express for me and it kinda traumatic was me being in a mental hospital and was forced to see a 3 year old take a shit on the floor and I knew at that moment that I was fucked up in the head and that made me never change

You adapt. You take what happened as a learning experience and use it make you a better person. Also, do not be scared to ask those around you for help. Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on every now and then.

Ive been broken so many times in the past that now its hard to break me and I have friends who have my back now so no matter what happens in rl I will never be alone again.

Broken but never fully destroyed -music helps me a lot -life is a one way road so I have no choice but to move forward -just remember you only get one live so live it the best you can-do what makes you happy and sometimes crying can bring such relief don't be afraid to cry your self back to strength -

The only thing I think I could really benefit from if I traveled back in time, is living more proactively. But even that is changing one set of problems for another. All in all, I think I've come out pretty strong, and un-jaded. As sad as it is, the worst things that have ever happened to me have always been the best things for me. And while I never want to loose another loved one ever again, I've come to understand that life cannot be simplified as "Cruel". Shit happens. If we survive it, we can either grow, or stunt ourselves by retreating into apathy. Loss is a powerful, transformative force. So just treat the healing process with respect. You're brain chemicals, your spirit, and your emotions all need to sort themselves out after all, and you do yourself a disservice by trying to protect yourself and escaping from feeling anything.

It's a constant process. I honestly just woke up at 4:30 in the morning because of a nightmare where I got to re-experience the joy of my wife telling me she didn't love me anymore. I keep thinking I'm pretty well over it, but every now and again I have nights like this. I'm doing much better these days, but I have major trust issues and as a result I tend to shy away from being social (even online sometimes, depending on my mood). In my case, I don't think I'll ever be truly back to the way I was before until I can learn to trust people again, but I have a long history of being taken advantage of and manipulated by people close to me that makes that a difficult proposition. It is a process, and no one can say how long it will take, but things always get better. I can't say I've never taken a few backwards steps, but I am now several hundred feet ahead of where I started.

Almost two years agao i fell victim to addiction of alcohol and drugs because something bad happend it deviastated me and left me mentally unstable and emotionally drained never the less it was my own fault for letting things get out of control like that due to my self destructive path try and escape i lashed out at people i love and cared about the most betrayed people who tried to help me and due to myn stupidity of drugs and alcohol addiction i lost my apartment and my life was hellish last year how ever i have turned my.life around and im back on my feet i dont do drugs anymore and i have cut down drastically on my drinking and i have made amends with some of the people i hurt and betrayed