Is it worse to be too easy/attainable or too picky/unattainable?

i feel like its better to be picky/unattainable because no one wants a person who is easy. if your easy to get then whats stopping you from jumping from guy to guy or girl to girl. if someone is picky they are more careful about who they choose. once they have found that person that meets their standards then it works out

its not bad being easy. sometimes two people can change to be better with eachoth. you would know soon if you couldnt be happy around them, more now then back in the day. people care less about looks now probably.

I agree with verucassault. Being picky basically means you know what you want from a potential partner. I actually do consider myself picky to an extent. As long as I can find that like minded girl who loves anime and/or video games as well as being physically attractive, friendly, kind and has a good sense of humor I'd be happy to have her for a girlfriend. Now that's not to say we have to like exactly the same anime, games or even music and tv shows. If there are things both of us like that's great because it means we'd have some kind of middle ground. Say I met a girl who also liked something like, say Jojo's Bizarre Adventure but didn't care for Akame ga Kill or something like that. I'd be fine with that. Heck, I'm not into Naruto but if my partner liked it I'd be okay with that as long as they acknowledge that it's not my cup of tea and not act like I've insulted their religion over it. Now, I'll admit that physical attraction is important. But never forget that personality counts as well. Case in point: You see a very nice looking young woman or man. Now, you're going to be drawn to them because of how they look. But when you find out that person is mean, selfish, abusive and just a down right unpleasant person, chances are you're not going to want anything to do with them because you don't have to put up with all that grief. The fact is people aren't perfect. We all have or own little quirks and such and can't like the same thing. Just acknowledge what you want from a potential partner but realize that everyone is their own person.

I actually think it's better to give people a chance. I don't really think that someone who does that will be any more likely to cheat than someone who is more picky. After all, you just need at least one other person to cheat and just because I'm more willing to go on a date with someone doesn't mean that I'll connect with them romantically nor does it mean I can't be monogamous. Not to say I don't have standards or anything but, in general, I just don't want to miss out on an opportunity because I wasn't willing to step out of my comfort zone, so to speak.

If I had to pick one extreme I'd go with too picky/unattainable While I'm all for only going for people you have a high thought of long term sustainability with there is always the possibility that a relationship can evolve into something deeper. You don't always have to jump into a relationship with an all out swan dive (although that is my personal style) to give it a chance. A picky person can be upfront about the casual nature of the relationship and be upfront about their trepidation and it can fail or work from there. If a person at least piques your interest then give it some shot right? Also to a degree picky people might be more inclined to look for reasons why relationships aren't working rather than why it is.