Finding a Girlfriend

I,m a nice guy and all but I'm really shy ever since I was humiliated in school I cant ask a girl out. When I meet someone I'm distant until I get to now them, but I cant ask them out cause I freeze up and think I'll be humiliated again so now I'm somewhat of a shut in I'm just looking for advice to help me.

Gotta pull a Nike and just do it. It's that simple. There's no magic formula or special dance. You don't have confidence? Welcome to being an adult. Just gain it thru victory and failure. Live and learn. Make small talk, invite for drinks, continue small talk and see where it goes from there.

Alcohol give me confidence. Maybe it will work for you. Don't overdo it though. I was out on a date with a girl when I was 21 and I ordered a long island iced tea, thinking it was light on the alcohol because it had tea in the name. Boy was I wrong. I accidentally got plastered on that date. And you know what? I woke up in her bed the next day. Alcohol is the magic potion of opening up, trust me.

learn from the animes jk but gekkan shoujo is a funny show http://img1.ak.crunchyroll.com/i/spire4/4365fc8e18a5aaeb08823949d3ff9b341405886138_full.jpg

Arc lol...that's a cute story. I order them because they have the most alcohol in them. That's always the first drink. Helps break the ice.

Speaking of alcohol and girlfriends http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e217/caresherbear/Family/sig%20tags/funny%20photos/liquidpantyremover.jpg

@OP - Firstly, if you are looking for a girlfriend it will be more difficult and you should stop and take a moment to reflect internally if you want to improve your chances. You are being outcome dependent(neediness) and it may subconsciously cause you to say or do things that will sabotage your efforts. You appear to be hunting and that can be easy to detect for some. Women are very sensitive to certain behaviors that will put them off(aka creepy). Even if they do not consciously know what it is all they know is something does not add up right about the person and they are uninterested and that is all they need to know to reject someone and rightly so. If you want to attract someone you must display attractive qualities and that does not mean acting fake. Looks and money do not always count but help make up for lacking other good qualities. When you are seen in public you should be focused and driven to be making you the best person you can be and working to attain your life goals and dreams instead of chasing a girl to 'get one' like an achievement or possession(that's how they will see it even if you don't mean it that way). Your hard work and effort will cultivate your natural confidence as you progress; it's in your body language, voice(tone and words), and eyes. Then it is easier to learn and make platonic friends with quality people and their wisdom and social value will rub off on you. If you are taking care of your business with any measure of success and socializing to gain experience it is inevitable you will catch someones eye and you will be ready to meet them with little trouble. If you are very un-social/anxious then start by working on that as a good exercise to gain experience and confidence. Go for walks in public places with plenty of people around with a very soft/slight smile(stay conscious of not frowning). Make sure your posture is good, not slouching/leaning/falling into your walk. Practice in a mirror if you need. You want to stand tall/move like a red carpet star full of greatness(don't over do it) not a hollow beaten down peasant. Next start making short eye contact with people you pass(don't stare 1-2 sec max). Once you are fine with looking strangers in the eye without anxiety note if they are looking back more than a second or two. Once you are comfortable then add a smile and nod or 'good day'(whatever your customary greetings is where you live) as you pass by them not looking back afterwards. This will make you appear more pleasant and approachable in all settings. You will never overpower your anxiety of a romantic interest or other stressful social encounters if you can not do it with random strangers you pass on the street/hall that do not matter. Outcome independence in a nutshell: You do not care or invest emotion in any outcome up front; positive or negative. If you get your hopes up it hurts more than it should when it does not go your way. If you bet on failure you will sometimes do things to insure that outcome without realizing it; you played to lose not win. Just go for it and deal with the outcome after it is determined. If you want to think of it as a game, play it like you have nothing to lose because it does not matter either way. When you master this you appear more confident than needy. In context of women you are meeting a stranger, people do it every day so why shouldn't you as well. If you hit it off congratulations you met a girl, if she rejects you just keep smiling casually and wish her a nice day and move on. Remember there are ~3.6 billion women on this planet and more than one is eventually not going to reject you if you keep yourself on track in life. It will not matter what is in the past when you stand in the present and work towards your future. Good luck man.

Not bad advice but usually fail. Why because as you gazing on girls in park or something by spending several hours there. Girls will think of you either creepy or stalker. You can try but not going to work out as you planned. Might as well let thing be the way and if you want to find gf usually you need social confidence by getting a secure job and make your own living. The best can ask friend of your friend to introduce you to girls or join a community. Engage talk with them and after you get to know them and you want the relationship in deeper level then ask her on date or something.