Is long distance and age really a big deal

I don't think its a accomplishment or cool I'm just saying my opinion just like you are and I agree with you on some levels with this but have a different veiw aswell

Age shouldn't matter bc I've met 17 yr olds who are more mature than 30 year olds, but it actually kinda does. Anyone more than 3 years older or younger than me has three whole years of life experience difference. That's alot imho. And because our life structure is different it makes it harder for us to communicate at some point. As for distance, no it doesn't matter to me as long as we both feel it's worth traveling far for eachother.

I think distance is more manageable than age. It's like what some people have mentioned on here in that it's not about age as a number per say or the degree of maturity but rather about how people want different things at different stages of life.

nikita_13 and neet-one have a good point about distance. That's actually something that happened to me. Several months ago, I was spending a lot of time talking to this one girl in another country and things were getting pretty serious. Then she met a guy closer to her and just like that, I was kicked to the curb, which messed me up for about a month and a half. Distance can be either an issue or a non-issue, depending on the people in the relationship. Both have to want to make it work. In my case, I was perfectly willing to make it work, but I guess she wasn't. As for age, past legality issues, I think what really matters more is maturity.

LDRs can work but it takes a serious amount of patience and discipline. It is a case by case thing. It has a higher chance of succeeding if you can see each other in person sometimes IMHO. As for age the closer the better is ideal but not an absolute. Growing with your partner can be very fulfilling when you can relate and experience new things together. What I wanted and valued indeed changed some in my 20s and 30s. As cadettealright said the brain changes over time but similar maturity levels and social development guarantees better compatibility more often and/or draws them together. cadettealright seems a bit anxious about it but yes the older party can have advantages the wider the gap and some do indeed exploit it while others teach and mentor. This advantage shrinks the older (or streetwise) the younger partner is. Adults know what they want and usually know how to get it and have the resources to provide instant fun and gratification. A powerful lure indeed. I got seduced (played like a fiddle) by a few older women when I was an awkward sexually frustrated teenager. I caved in recently a took a few of these 20-somethings that keep flirting with me out. Some are childish and annoying as shit and some blow my mind by how well they have their shit together at their age so it is a mixed bag.