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Trouble accepting the truth

hood_mugen
Its hard to take advice from other people (ironically, I'm asking you guys for your opinion lol). I know they want to help me out when they make suggestions but its kinda hard for me to do when I feel like I know myself better than anyone else. I guess what I'm really asking is, how do you feel when people give you unwanted (but possibly valid) advice? And do you take criticism easy?
key17
Mar 09, 15 at 1:01am
You really do know yourself better than anyone else, which makes it hard to accept advice from people who may not know what you've been through; but I think that rather than taking everything people say at face value, you might want to hear their 'opinion' on things. You may not agree, you may not follow it, but you should always try and see things from other people's point of view. But of course, there's that, and then you got your typical smartasses who just think they're better than everyone else for some arbitrary reason... Those I just ignore and stay away from.
neet_one
Mar 09, 15 at 1:06am
No matter how self aware you are, any opinions of yourself will undoubtedly be biased. Sometimes you gotta swallow your pride and accept the fact that you're not perfect and let other people tell you in what ways you're not. Problems can't be fixed if you refuse to acknowledge their existence.
manga_bird
It largely depends what topic the advice is on for me; I'm more likely to take advice for my writing and work than I am for more personal things.
leo_ss
You will most of the time know yourself better then others know you. But when three of five really close friends tell you a fault of yours, They are usually right. It depends on who they are, how much they know about you and about the topic at hand.
xueli
Mar 09, 15 at 10:09pm
The human mind hates change. We have layers upon layers of defense mechanisms specifically designed to keep things staying exactly the way they are. For me personally, I try to evaluate the advice as objectively as I can rather than who it comes from and in what form/tone it comes in because otherwise it's easy to trigger excuses to dismiss valid feedback. Excuses like taking criticism as an insult or attacking the person rather than focusing on what they're saying. I'm not always successful but I try to at least stew about it for a while hahaha
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