American Girls Or Japanese Girls?

I don't have any preference due to lack of experience so uhh... :/

Asians have good family values? Hmm, I should go re-check on that Domestic violence quite prominent in Asian households? hmmm, maybe I need to go check in another area... What's this? Patriarchy is still a big thing in Asia? HRRMM Wow, look at that, many disregard for families and commit suicide anyways. Can you stop just looking at the positives of Asian culture? "Good family values"? That can apply to any culture. //rolls eyes.

I do think that cultural stereotypes are kind of pointless. Frankly, when I say that I prefer one race over the other, it's plainly based on physical appearances and nothing more.

Overall, following a stereotype, I'll have to go with American Women. I like a person who's generally serious about things, but also kind of naive. When a girl gives me a polite smile, I fall head over heels for her. Sadly, a polite smile is hard to find. I've grown up having an older sister, two baby sisters, and five older female cousins. It's not that being Asian will make me think any less of you, of course, I'm going off stereotypes here. But even being in Key Club all four years of high school, I've met one Asian women who fits the categories of: Polite smile, Great Leadership, Serious, Somewhat naive, and warm heartedly cold at the same time. :D

i choose not to believe in stereotypes because its obviously not true for a lot of people everyone is different, following stereotypes and the appearance of a certain ethnicity to choose who you want to be attracted to doesn't make sense. you shouldn't have to choose an ethnicity over any other, just choose the person without being biased.

* looks at positives of asian culture* Based on my research and extensive hours of analysis ... I have come with the conclusion That asians are HUMAN. Aesthetics are not ethnic types and genetics differ based on ancestry. All in all no two are perfectly alike and finding all the feautures "romanticised" about any given culture is like finding a specific needle in a haystacks worth of needles. Its highly more accurate to like certain physical attributes (hair length,color,style, eyecolor, skin color) than an actual ethnic group. Because to be honest there are people you will find unappealing in all of them.

@cielle Yeah that's one thing that bothers me when people say they like the family values... I mean sure they highly value relatives, but there really is a lot of hidden abuse in families too, like kids being abused for doing something wrong they couldn't help doing. Emotional abuse too. I remember when I lived with my great grandma after moving to USA, she was extremely strict and would beat me for any little mistake using this giant thick bamboo pole and smack my head, while yelling "YOU F*CKIN' B*TCH" and calling me stupid saying my parents don't teach me anything(actually that's true). I had no idea what cusses meant at the time, I just knew it was bad since she was always angry. I couldn't hold a fork right(and still can't), so she'd beat me. She also forced me to wear diapers(from 5-7 years old), and it wasn't until my parents finally bought their own house and we stopped living with her, that I magically stopped wetting my bed as a kid. The weirdest part is that I was the only one she would abuse... my brother and cousin of the same age were treated like angels by her. @_@ I wasn't even a rebel or anything. I never tried to defy her. And, I am not sure about other families, but I feel a lot of "fake" vibes from my relatives too... you know, like they will be pretending everything is fine, and will have snob appeal. I just don't feel comfortable around them. There's also this modesty thing where they'll argue for a long time over who will pay the restaurant bill, and everyone will be like, "No, I will pay it!"... I think it may be a cultural thing, but it still annoys me.

@Kohagura That was very insightful. Thank you for sharing. It reminded me how the only time that I see any sort of abuse in anime or manga is when it shows a low-income family. From the mild slap, to choking the kids, to emotional abuse that drives someone to suicide. Abuse happens throughout all cultures, but is more apparent, especially physical, in lower-income areas. However, there is even a "self-help" Christian book released in the States on how to discipline your child with a PVC pipe call "To Train Up a Child," that has cause murders. But I am sure this isn't just a "Christian" thing either. My family may not be from Mexico, being 6th and 3rd generation American, but I did get hit with a belt and a shoe when I was younger and the last time I was slapped was when I was 14 while having an emotional breakdown/panic attack and then was told I was being "ridiculous." Here is one difference: My boyfriend introduced me to this one anime film called, "Colorful," and in it, it shows a low-income family. The boy in the family finds out that his mother had been having an affair and when the son found out, he attempted suicide. He did survive, but coming back, he finds out that his father more than likely knew about the affair and comes to realize that his father cannot say anything or act like it is a problem because he must work hard to keep and support the family together. However, the mother and father do change their old habits and try to become more of a family such as the father coming home and eating dinner with his family and the mother making all the meals everyday. The mother also keeps quiet about her taking antidepressants. I know this is not true for every Japanese family but I still feel like this would not happen in American culture. Usually, men and women in the states would jump up and confront them, try to take marriage counseling, or just straight up file for divorce. I also imagine Japan is more quite about having mental and emotional illnesses than the US though, in the US, it is still considered inappropriate. But we do talk about it more and even make jokes. I can't tell you which is better but personally, I don't think I could get use to the idea of putting interpersonal problems aside. But in the movie, it seemed like it caused such a great deal of pain the boy that suicide was greatly taken into consideration and even attempted. It isn't until that after that, he realizes it is what his family has to do in order to survive.