What's going on?!

I see so many people going, "OMG nobody wants to talk to me!" Look. What kind of people are you trying to contact? Do you judge by their profile pic??? If so, them maybe you should do a bit more. How about read their description, see them posting in the forums, send them a message to their wall??? If the answer is no, then you're not being proactive, so you should probably try these things! I myself try to be proactive, but if you don't respond then I pretty much blow you off and honestly I assume you're judging and if you judge me you are probably a d-bag and not worth my time anyway. I generally expect that the anime fandom is a bunch of superficial douche bags that have unrealistic expectations of how a person is supposed to look, and will just blow you off if you aren't pretty, or "kawaii". So I'm pretty much done with that bullshit. I thought I would just assert that maybe you all should be more proactive and try a bit harder if you really want to make some friends and meet people. Just putting it out there.

Huh... Damned if ya do and damned if ya don't. I think that about sums up half of what you're saying....but I guess I'm just a "superficial douche bag"...:p As for being proactive, I feel as though that's not the issue. The user base here is small and the active user base is even smaller. The few I see speak on the forums are white knight ( wanna be's), whiney, egotistical, immature expectations and just afraid to grow up. Generally speaking, I honestly have no real issues with anybody here ( then again II'm getting to a point of not caring for anything from here), but it just seems like so many just want to sit and cry rather than put their best foot forward.The whole misery loves company saying comes to mind.

You're not a superficial douche bag. (You and I message each other, anyway.) But, you have a very good point, and I think you may be right about the misery loves company thing applying to this situation, which is unfortunate.

yeah. I dunno. I hope I haven't ignored anyone. I haven't done the tally between men and women posting like that. All I gotta say to the men is just enjoy chatting with like minded people. The women.. I guess for me I'm pretty shy. Everyone here is probably a little shy too. If I don't immediately take the first steps to being friendly then it's probably me just being stupid and I need a little help. For instance, I like missallyesterdays picture with the hat. Can't see her eyes but she's almost smiling. She obviously has some interesting hobbies but it'll probably take some time to figure them out. Patience boy and girls! We all need some :)

Well, I do have a profile. >3> with more pics and info! But, the first step to getting to know someone would probably start with having a conversation! I think you may have just broke through your first barrier. I am very patient myself, but I thought I'd share my own insight with everyone. I said to myself, "Everyone will hate this!" but I posted it anyway because I hoped it'd help. We shall see...

I feel like it's not hard to start conversation with people or anything; the difficult part is keeping it up. As someone who (admittedly) bores easily, I am sporadic when it comes to being active on this site.. I've made quite a few friends here and frankly, I'm a bit embarrassed and perhaps ashamed that I can't reply to everyone in a timely manner. That's when I give up and sort of take a break/hiatus from the site. I WANT to respond to everyone, but I also want to do it with meaning and be genuine at the same time. I don't want to brush people off with simple a "oh yeah, totally, lol".. you know? It doesn't help that I don't have a good memory either. IDK OTL maybe I'm just babbling like an idiot now. As for the whole "superficial douche bags that have unrealistic expectations of how a person is supposed to look, and will just blow you off if you aren't pretty, or "kawaii"." This is the reality. People (in general -- not everyone) are superficial, it's just the way it is.. heck, I'll be 100% honest and say that I am superficial to an extent as well. However, that shouldn't stop or hinder anyone from talking to others or starting meaningful or even meaningless relationships. LOL.... if I were to have on 0% makeup or nice selfies; I'm sure people wouldn't give a second glance or waste as much of their breaths and time on me. I'm a realist; cynical maybe.. but SOMETIMES, I still have faith in humanity so whatever~ Hopefully, I can be who I am and you can be who you are and still get along, yeah. ; v; / P.S. I totally just rambled about nothingness pffft. //cries in a corner

I'm sure the makeup thing is true for the general populace. Can't count myself as one. I guess another point we're all sort of bringing up is this forum is slow. It's unrealistic to have high traffic forum/chat response here. In other words, it ain't gonna save you when you're lonely :)

You sure about that , jas? lol jk. idk , you get a lot of guys saying, "I like the natural look" ... but .... what does that even mean? Like, natural as in no makeup- au naturel or like makeup but not dramatic? it's so wishy washy. Ugh, this forum is wayyy too slow for my liking in all honesty. You're right, wouldn't help; in fact, it might actually kill ya even faster. tch

I'm not gonna lie, I can get superficial when it comes to dating...but as for friendship, come one come all! My only problem is that sometimes I can be a little shy about reaching out to people and the second reason is that so many people that sign on here never come back! I don't want to start talking to someone that I feel matches my personality and then have them disappear. I'm really afraid of that happening here :/