i think im having breakdown or something i need a lil advise plz

I was together with my ex for 6 years she was the quit shy otaku type which i thought was lucky for first 4 years we were together we were in school then when she graduated her parents wanted to move back where their family is san antonio i asked her if she wants to break up then i understand long distance is hard but she said love blah blah anyways i did all i could to make sure she knew i was loyal and cared for her visiting once every month but near the last few together she said shes been feeling lonely without i felt bad and said look lets just end this your not even sure when your coming back but she again did the whole i love you stuff so i caved then on my last i hot on the bus to leave and she told me i think ive fallen for someone else i knew it was gonna happen so from their i wanted to make sure there was closure and ended between us with what i thought was happy end but 3 weeks ago her sister found me on facebook and told me that shes telling me this because she thought it was wrong but that she was actully dating him for last three months we were together idk what to think i thought it eneded happily and i could just move fron thos happy momories but now its like it couses me to be diffrent even my friends say ive been more closed off from the world and stay out of their get togethers and now im noticing it i want to get over this! Whatever it is! This would be my 3 girlfriend ever and all 3 have cheated on me idk what to think about myself help plz.......

Honestly bro, some women can be fucked up. You should cut off all contact with her, Get rid of anything that used to be hers, or reminds you of her. Move on. I know its hard, but once you do you will feel all the better for it. Go out with your friends, meet other girls, distract yourself for a while until that feeling goes away. Do NOT talk to her in the meantime. FOR ABSOLUTELY ANY REASON. I went through it, Luckily I had friends that helped me through it and a few months after I was fine. Don't know about the other 2 Exs but this one was to be expected. She was far away and lonely. She used you for comfort while she transitioned on to the other guy.

Like I told someone else on here, there is no reason for someone to cheat on someone else. Even if you asked her and she gave you an explanation, she would just be blowing a lot of hot air. In most situations where a person cheats, they weren't even serious going into the relationship to begin with and nobody could blame you for not knowing. From what I read, you should just move on because it will cause you more grief and drama than it will closure. I don't know if your sister is telling the truth or not, or if your ex still loves you. HOWEVER I want to make this absolutely clear to you: THEY ARE MAKING UNNECESSARY DRAMA!!! It's over already, you two broke it off. It's time to move on and not look back. I don't know why her sister wanted to tell you that, but it's not necessary. You two broke it off. Your ex, she's with someone else now be it three months prior while you were dating or not, but she's moved on and you don't have to see her. You want to think that maybe she still has feelings, whether she does or not no longer matters because you need to move on. I think if you don't move on it will cause you grief and more unnecessary drama. I know it's hard, you two have been together for 6 years, and there were many happy memories. I had a friend that laughed and told me, "Don't be sad that's over, be glad that it happened." Which means, yes, you won't be with her again and you have all these memories, be glad that you got to experience them. Also, be glad that it's over too because she will cause you more grief than joy, and you can experience new memories with another person. You are a pretty bright person, and you seem very kind and thoughtful, I think there are many girls that can appreciate that. :)

Thank you both i doubt what you said wilk have an automatic response on me but it will atleat give me thoughts on what i have to do.....

I agree with both answers. All you can do is move on. You were the better one in the relationship. You tried is what counts. Forget about her and move on. You'll feel alot better once you get over it. Dont let something like this rule you.

I'm of the mindset that very few people enter a relationship with the intent to cheat. I think sometimes people have needs to don't match up, be it emotional or physical. I don't advocate cheating, I think people need to communicate and be honest with each other about what their needs are. But that being said, I think it's important to reflect on what might have happened in the relationship that could cause someone to cheat. Since I only know this part of the story, I can guess that maybe the distance was ultimately something that bothered both of you in the end. It does suck that she, for whatever reason, didn't tell you about the second guy. But I think ultimately, it doesn't change the feeling that you guys' relationship was already on the outs. I think the best thing is to just let it go and move on.