Why do you feel the need to be with another.

Well I have not responded to any of this but have read over the reasons thus far so here we go. @stefna so then your main reason would be having it since you see others that are happy in relationships correct? @seargentfox No need to put any blocks on what you think here. It is true that having said connection provides a good feeling on the inside especially if its formed without the force of trying to obtain it although much more difficult in my opinion to get. @animekid I think I was like that once when I was younger I did not really put any concern into finding a relationship but at the same time I always thought it would be nice to have one. I guess I was trying to take the easy route out myself and just hope one would pop out maybe thats just me though when I was not pursuing. @Robscenepie This is actually true something to think about, relationships provide you more connection but at the same time depending on how the two people form said relationship it may take away things that you have learned to like being on your own. Something I need to at the very least consider. @missallyesterday This brings me to another question finding that awesome person may take a long time or it may not random variables that I cant see so I have to ask myself if I should wait for the person that fits my skewed vision about what kind of person I think I would connect with or should I let it come more naturally find somebody that sparks my interest and see what pops up. @yaasshat That much is true we are social in the way we go about things Fighting things that are deeply routed into us is not easy. I lack in both departments myself when it comes to friends and relationships I think part of it is my social skills but the other part is just me trying to show myself in a social form which seems to be the problem in direct conversations until I get to know that person. @nate I am a bit in the middle but I see your viewpoint. Could you explain to me why you are able to feel no need for relationships as in perhaps you are more focused on you or is it more about just having fun with what you have forgetting about the connections or perhaps treating connections as something that just happens? @callista I agree on wanting to have connections and such. However I wonder if having somebody just as good friends or a very close friend can suffice and give you the same amount of connection? @vampire neko I would agree but what do you feel in the relationship provides the one thing nothing else can give you? @the angel that does not believe I would say that there are a good amount of different views and am glad to hear yours on the matter. On your statement then do you feel that its the overall emptiness around you then that drives you to wanting a relationship? Oreo When it comes to friends they are pretty equal to me to anything else if they are close. Thats just me speaking though mostly from my angle of not having friends or relationships which makes me value each highly perhaps and it is more difficult for me to value one over the other. Still relationships do bring certain things that friends cant but the same can be said for the opposite. @cecil to find a connection that you see others find so naturally right? I used to want somebody just because I was lonely a few years ago but something perplexed me enough to stop. Do I need somebody to fill in a space or is it that I really just want to be around that individual something I had to consider. Either way I am not applying that to anybody just the person I am.

Well Yu, the reason I feel that way is because of the difference when I'm outside and when I'm home. When I go out as I said a lot on this site I'm a pretty social guy so I talk to a lot of people and help them out with things. And though I'm sometimes glad when I come home to finally be at ease the difference between having a person around you all the time and suddenly having no one to say anything to or to just hold and know someone is there for you is what makes me feel so lonely...

There is a certain level of intimacy, both physically and emotionally that I desire and can only be satisfied in a relationship that goes beyond friendship. I crave that intimacy constantly. But it requires the right person, like a key in a keyhole. I am the keymaster looking for the gatekeeper.

that sounds so perverted XD But yeah it's a feeling you can't get with everyone

Ummm most guys want sex.. And if it initially wasn't about sex, it might get sexual later. But that's only natural. You can still be sexual but all cutesy at the same time, well for me anyways. Sometimes I want someone to be there for me, cuddle me all that stuff, but I manage to pull through in the end alone. Guess I gotta deal with my own issues before diving in again :x... But best wishes to you all

Awesome people normally take a long time to meet someone, mainly because they don't want to share their awesomeness with just anyone. It has to be a person that will appreciate everything they have to offer, and be awesome with them. Awesome people are usually not lonely as much,either cause they have awesome friends too. The trouble with having awesome friends is sometimes they don't think awesome boyfriends are all that awesome, too... So then there is the awesome friends nit-picking and seeing if Mr. Awesome Boyfriend is all he is cracked up to be, usually they don't think that Mr. Awesome Boyfriend is deserving of such a title... /: lol So, it's difficult to fill the position of Mr. Awesome Boyfriend... really difficult. I say open yourself up to it and let it happen naturally. For example, if you did in fact have a set list of things you want in your partner, and they fulfill it, they may not be as awesome as you expect. Sure, everyone has a list of things they are attracted to, but just keep an open mind because you never know who you may meet. I used to have a coworker that would joke, "You never know, he may be your husband." lol so, I took his word and let myself be open to meeting people.

^^That's f*cking awesome! That's a good outlook to have when finding someone. :D Yeah, I try to be open about the different girls I meet too. I don't judge on appearances, but whenever drama or crazy gets out of hand, I'm darting out the door! I'm not one for "he said, she said" bullshit, and I much rather deal with the problem/talk it out to get it over with rather than proceed with all that pointless stress. I'm fairly selective with girls, because like ^^ I want to actually find the right one, rather than get hurt/disappointed again. Sex is great, but I prefer to keep that in the bedroom, and is not often a topic when speaking with my love interest. I'll usually wait for at least a year (so I can get to know them) before dropping any sexual hints. I like to make friends anyway, so if it doesn't work out, there's always the buddy system. :D To answer the question, I feel as if I need to be with another due to watching friends/relatives fading out of my life because they found their "other half". After a while of being alone, I realized for myself that I needed this sort of intimacy with someone, a person I could trust and share my life with. I don't wish to die alone! Besides, I'm down for a best friend for life that I could f*ck everyday! XD

For me Chuck Palahniuk summed it up pretty well in his book Choke: "What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction."