The Relationship vent thread

Hello everybody I am proudly presenting from Metal minds this thread made specifically for relationship emotional vents. Please post away in this thread rather then make your own it would clear things up on the forums and if nobody wants to talk to you about it I will do my best to address anything you say.

Tadadadadadaaaaaa..... The Romantic Misadventures of Shinyumi:Episode 01. One of my ex girlfriends, sold my Nintendo Wii for drug money. I had over 3K+ hours of saved data on just Brawl alone, saved on that Wii. Why did she do such a horrible thing you may ask? She decided one day, that she wanted to become a man. She was saying things like "Why can't you accept me for who I am?" I wrote back with "I do accept you for who you are, but you don't." This caused her to become very angry, so she sold my Wii that she was borrowing, claimed it was for drugs, and broke up with me. ^ Charming, isn't it? RIP Nintendo Wii. Feb 2008 - Jan 2012 (True story by the way)

Yes I have seen this on another thread as well but all in all the logic here is right she could not accept her body. I have to ponder though about the selling of the wii for turbo tastic pills.

well then..... Yeah, i saw that before too.... crazy people... Anywho, I don't really have any relationship vents, I'm with my adorable boyfriend Kyong and have no complaints ^^ I did have a guy in the past tell me he loved me after only knowing me for a week and everything and then have a melt down on me when I told him that wasn't possible... yeah...

My story is... All the guy's I've crushed on in reality have all pretty much flat out rejected me I mean not even a first date or anything pretty much because I was fat or just not there ' type ' lol. Then sometime in Highschool in my first year I had a crush on this guy with acne but he was really cute and tall and very nice during my freashman year I met him threw the casual pencil case scattered thing, when I bumped into him my pencil case fell and all the pencils and stuff went flying and out of the shock I also dropped my art folder and while I went to go pick up the pencils I thoguht the guy had left after he said sorry cause that was what I was expecting ( people weren't really that nice in that school ) but when I turned around he was helping me pick up the pencils and my art folder's papers and when he saw my art he said ' Wow did you draw this? It's amazing! ' And I was like yeah..I drew it, lOL It isn't amazing it's just anime girls. And he was really smileing and he said ' No, This is amazing! Your really good at drawing anime. Keep up the good work.' And I was like just like ' Thank you so much.. >//.//<' And after he helped me pick up the stuff I dropped I noticed he put down a book on the floor so he could help me pick up my stuff so I picked it up and it was Romeo and Juliet and I gave it to him and I was like 'That's a good book, It's really sad though. ' And he was like ' Yeah I know, THank you Juliet' And I was like -BLUSSSSH- WAH..??? And he smiled and chuckled and just waved and left and I was like really really totally flushed and my heart was beating like the wings on a humming bird. I'll never forget meeting him, I never even knew his name but I called him Romeo and my friends always tried threwout that freashman year for me to confess to him but I was so shy I would hide behind me friends and stuff and alot of the time I caught him staring at me for moments when he hung out with his friends but I just never had the courage to tell him how I felt about him, Was the biggest crushing in all my life and I had fear that if I told him he would reject me but I thought he was like a sophomore or something but in the end the next year when I became a sophomore he wasn't around anymore and when I asked some of his friends they told me he graduated already so I was so shocked and heart broken because he no longer will come and in the end I couldn't tell him how I felt and my friends were like ' WE TOLD YOU SOOOO ' And it just felt really sad..Threw out the rest of highschool I never really got him off my mind. And one day when I was really sick my friends told me the next day that he had come to the highschool to help with the cafeteria and I was like flipping my shit because THAT WAS MY LAST CHANCE. To tell him but I didn't know!! And I was sick! It sucked so badly. And then one of my friends later tell me that turns out that he liked someone in highschool too who he only got to meet once in his senior year but that she was chubby and short and kind of gothic (cause i use to dress a little gothic back then ) and I was like OMG THAT WAS MEEEEE. But yeah it didn't matter anyway cause he already had a girlfriend after I found this out..I was so heartbroken you wouldn't believe it. I hated love for alooong time. But when I think back of how happy I was to see him everyday even if I thought it was one sided and the feeling of my fluttering heart it makes me remember a little how nice it could be to love someone..I only imagine how it must feel to be loved back by that someone you love..-Sighs- I wish I could turn back the time so his star and mine can meet again. Then for sure..I'd tell him my precious feelings..I wonder what he is doing now..I never knew his name or anything..

Today's society conditions many young men into subconsciously believing they are the main character of the universe. This makes many young men categorize and simplify people in to roles and archetypes. It cheapens any sort of relationship they can make with anyone platonic or romantic. It makes them objectify everyone around them. Its a result of women being social bargaining chips for perceived social power. "How many girls you can get and how pretty." Most every guys knee jerk reaction is to say "I'm not like that." But its subconscious so you never really know without others telling you. Almost every single girl has been hurt by this kind of guy. Girls get with guys who only really care about how the girl looks in relation to him, how good she looks on his arm, how much she can prop up his ego, how much others will envy him because of her, etc. My first serious love, she was hurt so many times by guys like this. She was extremely beautiful and she drew these guys like moths to a fire. By the time she had met me, she couldn't tell the difference anymore between decent guys and these objectifying fucks. She lumped me in with them and rejected me. To the best of my knowledge i think shes found someone now who isn't like that. That rejection changed me. I looked deep inside and made it my mission to not become that kind of guy, asking others to help me correct any behavior and introspecting at all times to make sure i realized human beings have their own will and are actual people. Not characters. I also started to take care of my appearance and body. I became an athlete and martial artist, i took care of my hair and face, started caring about if what i wore flattered me. All this was so that i could ensure the best chances in the future for not being rejected. Looking back i realize i should have never been with her anyway since i was exactly that kind of asshole and i didn't know it. I was instead blinded by my supposedly noble martyrdom of being rejected and single. It took several people analyzing my behavior to make me realize i was doing the same thing those guys were but didn't notice because it seemed a bit more benevolent. I wanted to save and protect her from those types of guys. <- Typing this even now makes me want to throw up in disgust at myself. Good way to fetishize vulnerability you asshole. Shes the princess you want to rescue huh you fucking hero wannabe? Shes human and she is what she is you stupid fuck, shes not yours unless she chooses to be. And there worst part is there's nothing and no one to blame. This whole thing was a result of circumstance and the culture a human being is born into. Those asshole guys and myself? think about it, its not really their fault they turned into that, if you're so deep in a culture that your ability to even realize you're in it is gone, then there's no escape. All that anime with the hero saving the day and getting the girl, all the normal media that's exactly like that. All the hero stories we grew up on. All the stories about powerful men defeating their foes. From a young age it molds your subconscious to make you believe you are that hero, and you never even realize it. It all makes me sick.

Ok @ Rou this is a very interesting topic you brought up actually so I will tread with respect towards your view and such as much as I can. I will agree with you that this kind of thing does go on unfortunately however not every person is in that group. Lately I have been seeing these kinds of issues pop up where our natural mechanics in our minds such as primal instincts are being forced into a black and white view. We can definitely argue that the human mind is by no means perfect which it isnt however at the same time rejecting our own being will not solve the situation. You are right though we cant blame man or woman for this type of self worth at all. However there needs to be more actual proof though that our minds are truly wired to be this way before we should march on in and say that this is the case. @stell I am sorry to hear that hopefully someone pops up with similar qualities as you or different and you two connect.