Guys that like curvy girls??? >///////<

This is a matter whether or not you like yourself. Beauty is not defined by fatness. If you like your body as it is, find a man who'd do the same (and there are plenty of them) and if you don't, work to have a better body shape. Basically is up to you.

Neet,I get what you're saying man and it's kind of true,but some people really struggle with weight and it;s not because they're lazy and I think it's not okay to assume stuff from people based on their appearance even if some cases are as such,let me give you an example ,when I was about 8 years old I got really fat,common in Mexico by the way,but when I got 12 I started liking girls and feeling more self conscious so I went to a diet doctor( sorry forgot word in English) and took some meal plans and started to exercise regularly, it took me about a year to get to the ideal weight and I was really proud,but I met a lot of people who were doing the same stuff as me or even working harder and they were simply not losing weight as fast and some of them were really depressed, so I now that I sound really cliche but don't judge someone until you know them,you don't have to date fat women or whatever you want to call them,but remember that you don't know what a person has been through

If you're fat lose weight Unless you like being fat then stay the way you are. But please for the love of god dont whine about how its impossible to lose weight. Cause its not.

That's true EA1294, there are no absolutes. Like I said it's just a safe bet. That said I come from a country where people are often fat as a direct result from being lazy. Too lazy to exercise and too lazy to eat properly. Around here people are too lazy to walk around and everyone drives or uses scooters to get around. Exceptions don't make the rule by the way. wight lose isn't the same for everyone sure, it takes time. Many don't even bother to put in the first effort though. The problem isn't even with being a little overweight, we're talking about obesity here. Putting on 10 or 20 extra pounds and not noticing is one thing, but when you put on an extra hundred or two pounds, that's when there's a problem. In this country many just don't care and let themselves go, you don't gain 100lb over night you know? These people see the change and don't do anything to stop it. >you don't have to date fat women This here is what really gets to me and grinds my gears because here in this part of the US you kinda actually do. You honestly wouldn't believe how many women around here are overweight. Even if they're not fat at first, women around here tend to let themselves go when married. This is why I'm single, the women around here disgust me. Here you have two options, lower your standards or be alone. It pisses me off to no end that there's nothing but revolting garbage around here and I'm expected to just accept that fact. These self entitled nasty piles of filth let themselves go yet still expect to get everything they want and they're freaking everywhere because guys with no standards or self respect enable them to be. Hell that's one of the major contributing factors to why I lost the motivation to even keep working years ago, because I realized that there was nothing to work for. I mean I work out, I'm not bad looking, I was plenty sociable and nice to everyone, and I was working my ass off. Tet all that's available here are fattys and skanks, How is that fair? If you're into that sort of stuff that's great for you, but everyone else is shit out of luck.

People really do struggle with weight loss. But not impossible. But also the word "fat" shouldn't be such a taboo word to use when describing people. It shouldn't equate to your potential, your social status, your motivation, your ability, if you are lazy or ugly, etc. Fat means fat. After saying that, don't try to make "fat" any better by saying, "I am not fat, I'm chubby/curvy/etc..." I really think you can be fat and all those things (52-37-52(extreme hourglass)) but I'm not gonna lie to myself, I am fat and doing something about it. @Neet You shouldn't have to do anything to change yourself for the sake of your partner. Sure, you can, but if you don't, that doesn't make you selfish. It is better that if you do something life changing, it should be based on your own decision and for your sake. It isn't good to be relationship-centered. Why? EX: Let's say I started losing weight for a significant other. I want to loose 100 lbs and I've lost some weight after starting the relationship. But they break up with me and I think, "Why was I losing weight in the first place?" Just through stress alone after a break up (not just stress eating, but stress, putting tension on your body) made me gain all that weight and more back. People who are fat do care. Especially those who acknowledge they are fat. Trust me, they are most likely doing something about it. Sure, people will judge you based on your appearance but, good thing for me, I'd rather not associate with them.

Rina, I can't agree. I think that's the very definition of being selfish. Sure there are some unreasonable things to ask of people, but loosing weight wouldn't just be for your partner, it'd be a healthier life style for yourself as well. I can certainly relate to that problem you faced though after the break up, like I said before I lost motivation myself down the road and became a hikki/neet. So that's understandable. >they are most likely doing something about it. If they were more likely to do something about it, why are they were they are in the first place? and why are they so common place? By that logic I would think people who are fat would be rather rate. When at the gym I don't usually see fat people there but rather people who are already in shape trying to stay that way. Same goes for joggers and people riding bikes around.

It is better to be at a healthy weight but like I said, first people have to really realize that they are not in a healthy lifestyle. That is when they can change. It isn't selfish to do things that you need to do in order to find happiness. If you ultimately try to loose weight for your partner, it can damage your body permanently because you may end up losing weight the wrong way. You can end up with a different type of eating disorder (not eating) and becoming obsessed with fitness or end up neglecting other things like sleep and pushing their body's limits. It is for different for everyone. Why am I at this obese weight? Because when I started taking antidepressants (because I was diagnosed with Major Depression Disorder and Anxiety), they gave me Seroquel and a few of the side effects was either a gain in weight or loss in weight and an increase in appetite or a decrease in appetite. Guess which side effects I got? From when I was 14 to 15, I went from 108 to 180 lbs. I am not joking. That just made me more depressed. Until I got to 231 last year in June. Then I realized, "I've been going back and forth, saying I am gonna lose weight but that was only for other people and it feels like I will never get their approval, even if I lost 100 lbs. And it feels like I will never lose weight." It wasn't till that I realized that I want to live longer, I want to walk places and live in New York, I want to play with my kids and my grandkids when I have them, that I want shopping to be a fun experience. I go to the gym weekly and I see a bunch of people who are overweight. They are like me; trying to get the most of their workout. They are usually the ones who sweat the most. Now, I am at a weight of 219. Not that much of a difference but this is the lowest I have been in a long time. Oh and here is a nice example: My dad has a job that requires him to walk 7 miles a day and although he lost 60 lbs in the past about 7 years ago when he started the job, he can't lose anymore weight at about 200lbs. However, he can certainly hold his endurance and can walk farther than most people

Well yeah I suppose you wouldn't want to neglect your own happiness, but finding happiness in being overweight? really? That's certainly true about working it off, it is indeed possible to go about wight loss the wrong way and end up hurting yourself. I think it's best to just not let yourself get to that point. That doesn't mean people shouldn't try though. Sorry to hear about the side effects of that medication. I'm sure that wasn't easy. Did you not try experimenting with other medications? It's nice that you're trying though. Around here many don't, so sorry if I offended you with that. That 200lbs sounds like it might have a lot to do with muscle mass, but I'm no expert. There's really a lot of factors that have to be taken into account.

Not finding happiness in being overweight but finding happiness through finding what you want and what you need in life. I think that is more important than being told what is wrong with you; you have to kind of learn what is wrong and how to fix it.

Neets just pissed cause theres only fat people around lol Yeah there are special cases but majority is just lazyness. I was at 212 in middle school, Now I'm at 178 trying to get to 170 so I can then bulk up in muscle. Should take me about another 2 weeks of eating healthy and going to the gym. I walk to work, to school and I play sports with my friends when I'm there. I agree not to focus on losing weight for someone else. You may be dissapointed in the end. Do it for yourself. So you can look in the mirror and be like "DAYUM &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3"