Liking the idea, not the person?

I hate that shit. They get so invested in the fantasy they build up in their own heads that they think it's reality. Don't let him gaslight you. You're not in the wrong at all in this.

@AmDarely EXACTLY! In my case...It's just like..Oh..I thought you were interested in me enough but now there's excuses. Ok. XD It's worse when they're the ones that started it! But it's alright though. I was mad last week but I'm healed from it now at least. But other than that, I know how it feels for someone to be that way towards me. I even had a stalker once. Fun times.

@xueli: I know! Especially because the fantasy is typically impossible anyways... Thanks though :) @PrismMiracle: Youch! Stalkers are so not fun :/ I'm sorry that's happened to you

Hmmmmmmm I've had this problem. A girl that's not even my type would confess to me or show me obvious signs of interests but I had to turn them down because I know that once they find out that I'm too Asian for them they'll just break up with me anyways. Looking back I think to myself wtf was wrong with me even though I know that most of em just liked me because I'm Asian.

Eh. It's better that you date someone because you like them, over dating them because they are interested. I've made that mistake before.

@AMD: I know but I could of sooo used the experience points. Now I'm like a noob that entered Nightmare on Diablo too early where my lv77 Paladin can't do a damn thing because he only does 5k smites and the girls have +9000 dmg resist.

@ExHeroKid: hahaha I enjoy the comparison, but I'm sure that's not true. Girls have a hard time dating just as much as guys sometimes. Yes, some girls are more experienced, but out of my friends, I have the most experience and I can barely count that. We are just good at faking it haha

That sounds incredible creepy, like creeper factor 10. You can tell they already started to form an emotional attachment even before talking to you. Once you let them down (even softly), that reality crushed their fantasy of how things were going to turn out and they can't process that.