How do I get one

Na, all we're trying to do here is understand each other's opinions on relationships and plus this is a website meant for developing relationships with other otakus, so their is nothing wrong with talking about relationships on here lol....and I'm getting a lot of helpful information anyway XD

Lol its always nice to see these debates, but you guys are getting too far into it. Youre both right. In my case the girls have picked me, Ive never asked a girl out, never been rejected, all my past relationships were girls coming up to me and asking me out. It depends on the situation. So its not always the guy that chooses or the girl that chooses .Now I have to agree with tornado when it comes to the line up. Thats a real thing lmao, its sad but true and while its not all girls that do it, its a vast majority of them. Asking a girl if they are interested in you takes alot of balls and a guy will most likely never do this.

I'm not taking anything from you by having friends on this site o_O, I'm just merely saying that guys on a dating site are in it to win it. If you already had a boyfriend and you had guy friends on here, the moment you go single, they'll jump on it O_O. It's leading them on if what you feel is mutual but with multiple guys, in a sense that you're interested in them. Everyone has the capacity to be interested in more than one person, if you met 3 guys who were identical, all physically attractive and had the same interests, would you not be interested in them o_O? I'm not trying to say this to make you look like a bad person lol, i'm just saying that unless a girl chooses 1 specific person and makes it known that theres only 1 person, the other guys are going to feel like they are being led on. That or they ARE being led on. I've seen this happen more often than not to both guys and girls. Willingly and unwillingly. When you have multiple guys that like you, you are indeed choosing the "best" option when you choose the guy you like... is it not? O_O. Personally, i have no problem asking a girl out, being rejected or asking if they're interested in me. Because honestly, I have nothing to lose while the girl has everything to lose B) lol. But not every person has the guts to do it because no one wants to hear the word "no" when they think they've got a shot O_O. P.S.- Not saying that girls have it easy, but guys have it a lot harder. Have a girl run around naked asking guys out, more guys will say yes than no. Have a guy run around naked asking girls out, he'd get slapped lol. It's not a fair comparison, but it works o_O.

Sorry. I tend to get carried away sometimes, but it's all in good fun, right? At least I hope he realizes that. I guess I just can't comprehend why people would do that, because to me that means you're essentially saying anyone will do, you just pick the one with the best job or looks or whatever... I like to believe that you feel emotions on a deeper level with this person and you click with them in a different way... Anyways, I'm weird haha I know

FYI, when we talk about "BEST", we're talking about the "BEST" one who falls into YOUR standards lol, not the ideal one who has money and etc haha. People like that exist but i'd hope to god no one is like that on here lol. As for leading people on, it's more of a selfish act and I don't really blame people for doing it, if they have to select from multiple people to be their significant other. I just dislike it personally. Now leading someone on for your own lusts with someone you decided to go into a relationship with? THAT! is fucked up. And I curb stomp people's faces in.

Guess I left this thread without leaving any advice; shame on me. Lol, well truth of the matter people male or female don't ever know who's right for them. That's why people date. Really, the only person you should be with is someone that feels right. Men this advice is for you. Women don't really know what that want. Even if they defined it in their head is not true, not really. If you want a chance you should only hope for that. Simply don't get ahead of yourself. You can only create opportunities and that's all. Basically you have to be the one to make yourself available. What's important is how you do that. Most women aren't forceful and won't make the first move. So create situations weather is doing something nice, silly or bad but in a fun way. That's how you start conversations. How the conversation is handled is what will rule you in or out of her mind. If she doesn't enjoy herself being with you or you don't enjoy her company and don't connect move on. This is kind of vague but I can't go into detail. Too much to cover. Women, really just be available and show some interest in a settle way. Girls can get away with more when it comes to guys. If the guy is struggling but is clearly interested help him out. If he's not well move on just the same. Other wise you must be willing to change or do crazy stuff to make him look your way haha. If you want a girl well afraid I have no advice there. Need to tag someone else in

I guess, I'm just a firm believer of "you wouldn't have fallen for the second, if you truly liked the first." so to me, the ability to like more than one person isn't truly possible. Someone may spark your interest, but a spark of interest is different than true interest. I dislike it as well. It's not exactly something that I particularly enjoy, and I have been led on by quite a few guys. It's not fun... It may be the girls who lead guys on in the Anime Otaku community, but at my highschool, guys led on girls. For their own personal lust and other reasons.

Naaahh leading people on happens in the daily life. Ive been led on by otaku chicks. Chicks who have no idea what anime is and etc. As I said, both men and women do it. And the reason why I hate competiton is because of that sole reason xD.

^^ Guys lead on girls then the girls lead on the nice guys, who then turn into douchebags and lea on the next batch of girls. Its a vicious circle.