How do I get one

From my perspective, I don't mind a lot of different guys talking to me about the same thing. I enjoy talking to people, especially if I don't have to make the first move. So that's your first thing, don't be afraid to take the initiative to talk to someone you are possibly interested in. If you're successful, and she talks back to you? That's great! However, the first mistake a guy can make is if he tries to push something too quickly. I don't know about other girls, but I like to know the person I'm going to potentially date. So if you ask me out immediately? It probably won't happen, and will freak me out a little. Wait a month or so of talking, and not just you starting every conversation, but a back and forth/give and take conversation. Meaning, she brings up new topics just as much as you do. Lastly, don't mistake her "niceness" for interest. Not every girl is going to be interested in you. But that doesn't mean that you have to suddenly treat her poorly because she doesn't like you in that way. Having female friends can be a great asset (even if a majority of the female population is a bit crazy), because they can help you out with the lack of female love, or if you have problems with your love interest. We may not understand completely how other girls work, but we certainly have a better idea than most guys. I hope that helped? It's purely from my perspective. But most of my friends think the same way I do.

Patience is all i can say theirs someone for everyone. It may take a long time. But it's worth it in the end. I'm 23 and i have yet to find a girl. But i know if i keep pushing and stay strong that i will find her.

The biggest issue is that the ratio of men to women here is ridiculous. Which is why you stay calm. As foe all men talking about the same subject... I know a lot of girls who have literally just stop talking because she is overwhelmed by the amount of guys and same subject talk lol. But if a chick is really looking... it may not bother her, still comes down to looks too though. I know plenty of girls here who are looking and talks to a lot of guys but won't commit because they want someone physically attractive also. Just be you and dont be pushy. Best advice I can give :/

Agree with both of you, The whole Niceness thing AMDarely mentioned is a big one, they interpret it as interest and skip the whole fun getting to know each other stage and straight into asking the chick out.

Indeeeeed. I've given up on the whole waiting thing. I just do my thing and wait for the girl to tell me that shes interested in me. If not, oh well :D. Guys these days are too pushy and desperate. Women can sense that shiz super easily lol.

I'm here because I found this topic interesting XD......and many helpful responses that may help me (thumbs up to all of you) you are all awesome

@tornadomushroom So do you just kind of sit and wait until she says something? Or do you prompt her? But you are right. Some people can be a little pushy, and it can be a bit of a turn off. @animejoker: that's how I was too!

@AMdarely Oh, i usually prompt her lol. I usually say a few things and then leave enough to keep her focus on me but not enough so that she wants knows who I am :P Of course it doesn't work 100% but that way I can tell if she wants to get to know me or not. No point in throwing everything at her unless you're 100% sure shes interested in you Dx. And then there are times where I'm just too lazy to initiate anything, that or i feel i have ZERO chance :D

Ok, good! I knew this guy once who just thought the girl would be able to know by him looking at her in a certain way... I tried to convince him he was crazy, but yeah... Didn't work. But that's a really good way to do things! Although, never feel like you have zero chance! You never know what someone is interested in and what their type is. There are some pretty "backwards" couples out there. But I definitely understand the laziness part haha