Raei

Oh geez, I can't help but have my doubts about what you're saying. First off, why are you getting hit as a caster DPS? Sure, you have Manaward but if you can avoid orange AoEs, please do. Tanks have cooldowns to mitigate damage so they can take some pain, meanwhile a Black Mage has really just that limited resource instead which is best used for unavoidable damage. Second, it's not "playing like a pro", it's being good at what you're doing. Putting in thought and being receptive enough to improve upon errors. I'd argue that any game's better enjoyed (aka fun) when you play to win, instead of just mindless fooling around (which can be nice too but time and place for everything). BLM is less strict on rotations from what I played but you'll still have to follow some rules if you want play any game. Eager to yolo in single-player games? Sure, go for it but when your presence is vital to a party's performance, please mind what you're doing. Your problem with playing with others is you think others are being mean for the fuck of it and you're in the right, by whatever weird parameters you've set up. Granted people can be toxic even for minute reasons, hell they can even be wrong. But when you've noticed a pattern including yourself and other random people acting the same, the only constant has really been you. So maybe look into that a bit. Lecture's over.

@ツンペーパー Knowing the game's community, they wouldn't be saying that without a reason. Don't want a lackluster DPS holding the party down but worry not, have you tried looking up guides on your job? There's plenty of resources online, be it from youtube or reddit. Basically you want to know all the ins and outs of what you're doing. Also looking up the dungeons you're doing beforehand helps a bunch to avoid awkward mess ups. You could also set up a parser to confirm you're performing well. https://gist.github.com/TomRichter/e044a3dff5c50024cf514ffb20a201a9 I find myself doing 50% of the party's damage as a RDM often lol.