Why are "fat girls" like me so unattractive??

I have been tempted to respond to this but I haven't been wanting to because I don't want to be defensive about it. So i will not respond to anyone directly. However, I would like to make one thing clear: weight and fitness are different. This is what I mean: if you weigh a lot, it doesn't necessarily mean you are unfit. If you fit, it doesn't mean you don't weigh a lot. However, I will be the first to say I am not fit nor healthy and I am overweight. However, I am overweight not because I am not fit nor unhealthy. But because of medication and stress. And I am not fit nor unhealthy because I just stopped having an active lifestyle. I am still strong and I can most likely pick up everyone who is under 200 lb up and throw them across the room. However, my endurance is low. My point is <b>stop saying weight and fitness are the same thing</b>. There are plenty of awesome people who are full-figured or don't have abs or aren't stick who can run circles around everyone, including me. Now, I don't think your are unattractive. You have a cute face and a sweet smile. I think you are very attractive. Those guys must have been searching for an excuse to say to break up with you, so maybe that isn't the truth. Those guys must have thought you were attractive at some point because they agreed to date you. But people who say fat people aren't attractive? That is pretty shallow because first, they are saying that fat people aren't beautiful. And if they think that certain types of people aren't beautiful, it means they only care about beauty because they are so busy deciding who is beautiful and who is not through shallow standards. Don't mind those people. they don't matter at all. Look in the mirror and believe in yourself that you are attractive. My opinion doesn't really matter compared to yours. Just like everyone else. It isn't like out opinion is better than yours. So listen to your own.

Don't let mindless idiots label you as such your beautiful no matter what the people of the world think. They just want to bring you down to make themselves feel better.

I actually find chubbie guys cute ^^ then again I don't really descriminate cuz I jus want to find a connection with someone

Attraction has no set objective standards just trends and things people are naturally inclined towards. While its true being overweight is generally unattractive to humans (our programming and body's biochemistry) the effect has more been blown out of proportion due to media and social portrayal of people who are overweight. People are conditioned from birth to think being fat is being uncool and a many other negative things. Outside of all of this though (meaning if someone can get past the zeitgeist of fat people being all manner of negative things) your chances are really not as bad as they would seem. You'd be looking at a 60/40 (people who find you unattractive versus attractive) split which is way better than none and is the average for most people.

Some of these replies weren't the most polite people should really learn how to talk to people...but I think you are a very beautiful girl and you just have to find the right person that looks at more than that beauty is really whats on the inside so if you don't love yourself you can't demand for someone else to thats the first step. But after that its sometimes pretty easier to pick whos and asshole or whos not right for you don't settle for less. And definitely don't ask if your good enough but are they good enough for you.

fat girls arent unattractive,most guys dont really like big women in that way it most certainly doesn't mean your ugly but there are men into that sort of thing they call them bbws (big beautiful women) not to be cruel or nasty but i for one fear being crushed by a big woman that is why i dont date overlarge people and i am a huge fan of food so i know its not easy and personally everyone deserves love no matter what your differences are i know guys who point at lets say bigger people and laugh ive also seen other guys walk up to that bigger person kiss them and walk off with them and the guy laughing stands and watches in dismay that someone he laughs it has someone when he has no one so never give up hope i mean no offence by this comment.

@cantthinkofabettername i wouldnt know like i said ive never dated a bigger woman but i assume if your underneath the weight would be overwhelming "Mostly its your personality that makes the difference" never a more true sentence said