Is race really a factor? O . o [Gomen for ranting]

Some people are attracted to certain races- whether or not that makes them racist is up to you. In my opinion using your parents as an excuse to not date someone is idiotic. That's like, Jr. high type crap. I have a friend who won't date white guys. Period. And she's as white as you get. I myself have been attracted to lots of different races as well as both genders, but I have ended up dating skinny, nerdy, white boys and no one else. I don't know if that's my preference or if that's the way it turned out for me. I DO think that I have a preference for shy guys with glasses and androgynous girls with short hair. But that has nothing to do with race, and everything to do with personal taste.

Well Meems, I think as long as you know what's your taste/preference is all that matters. Some people take these kinds of things way too deeply. I have ran into some religious people before who take the who "honor thy father and thy mother" way to seriously and only date/marry people their parents literally picked-out for them.

@Ikkoku you're asking like you had no idea? didn't you see that Tyra show about race & dating? it was actually pretty good & insightful I really connected with some of the things the people in the experiment were saying about their dating lives & how race affected them. There were people on there saying out loud they wouldn't date a particular race for the most ridiculous reasons that anyone could label as racist.

I think it is a factor for initial attraction, IE, walking down the street and looking for good-looking peoplke, but I think that it is certainly possible through personality and common interests to be attracted to someone even if you are not initially attracted to them because of their race. Happened to me quite recently, actually, although I never pursued that particular relationship.

"I've actually who had a friend that used the "My parents are racist" line to avoid dating a black girl he described as: too short, fat, and not pretty." I'm with you MaRawr, it sounds like an excuse, not a reason.

Wow that's really sad. Why not just say I don't liker her she's not my type? From what i'm seeing people seem to have this stereotype about black women and won't date us. What is it about us that the world seems to hate so much? How much you wanna bet if it was a short, skinny, asian girl he would've been okay with it?

I dated a black girl once, and my parent seem to be cool about it(Even though they are racist and complain about it all the time .__.) Maybe because it have none of those stereotype seeing my parent meet her :D

To be honest, I think that it’s really unfair to blame the person who says that their parents are racist for the racism itself. I can’t really speak for other races but in some Asian families race can be a very large factor when it comes to relationships even when the family itself doesn’t seem racist. It’s mostly the native and first generation of migrated Asians that don’t want their children dating outside of their ethnic group. The reason for this is that they want to preserve their culture and traditions in the future generations and that’s more likely to happen if those said generations are homogeneous which is why they push marriage with the same ethnicity. You can even see this in countries such as Japan which have tried very hard to stay homogeneous in order to preserve their culture. Sometimes this feeling is even stronger in the first generation of migrated Asians because they sometimes feel overwhelmed by the new culture and that motivates them to hold on strongly to their own and push it upon their children. Not to mention that they could be discriminated against and this only makes that feeling stronger due to obvious reasons.

But the obvious problem here is that people think that the offspring of the previously discussed parents should be able to make their own decisions. They can, but it’s very stressful for them and you shouldn’t judge too harshly about it. In most Asian families, children are bought up to respect their elders a great deal which is why it’s very difficult for the offspring to talk back to their parents in most situations. But also keep in mind why those parents have that mindset in the first place they were most likely taught the same by the previous generation which is usually still alive around the time of these types of relationships. So if the newer generation goes against their parents in not only dating outside their race, but anything at that’s opposes the family’s interests. That person is going to be hated on by not only the previous generation (parents, uncles, aunts, ect.) but also the one before that (grandparents, ect.) and possibly those generation’s friends also if they’re those type of Asians who enjoy to gossip a lot. Trust me, old Asians are really mean and this can be VERY stressful to a person which is why most Asians try to avoid going against their parents.