Is race really a factor? O . o [Gomen for ranting]

Sometimes yes it probably is. It takes a very mature person to overlook certain things they've been taught (by society or family) to not ignore. Sometimes they aren't necessarily racists, they just need help getting over an emotional/mental barrier & then their hearts become more open. I don't use my parents as an excuse, my non-attraction to a certain race is ground in emotional/mental trauma while growing up spurred by other people or parental partners that came & went.

If my parents were racists I would probably file for permission to become an orphan, but lucky for me I don't have to! :P But joking aside, eventhough race might have some differences from each other it should never be a reason for not dating/loving/marrying someone of another race, infact it should be the standard to marry someone of another "race" since it is scientifcally proven that children of "mixed race" are gentically stronger and have larger resistances towards disease not to mention promotes non discrimination. But I'm afraid there still is people that is quite racist.

Ah I just want to add, that often people are racist more because of the social norm than actual hate, and racist remarks can from a young age be instilled in many of us. I try to break free from those shackles but the racist remarks and slandering can sometimes pop to the surface, not because I really feel that but because we have been such brainwashed from media and surroundings.

Racism how quaint like mom and apple pie. I find the very notion of one own beliefs being control by one parents absurd. Hell the whole growth and developement process is defined by the rebellion against the value instill by our parents ,our famlies or even our home towns. So I find using the race card as reasoning or even justification as a complete lack of balls, heart, and will power. I find racism is simply a scape goat for other more serious home grown personal problems. Black brown yellow or white after you reach a certain age nobody notions but your own dictate right or wrong, good or evil. Parental Control pales in comparison of god given freewill. So saying it's your parents that are at fault for your personal hang ups is a defeatist mindset, I rather take responsiblity for my own hang ups and flaws because if a can reconize my flaws as being my own, mine and no ones elses I can seek to correct them if I see them to be a detriment.

Umm i'd hate to break it to ya Chase, but mixed kids do face some discrimination or in some cases are the cause of discrimination towards someone else. Within our own communities (mines, I'm not speaking for everyone) some mixed people are treated badly by others, who think they look down upon them because they are mixed & don't get as shuned by the rest of society because they can't be readily identified as belonging to one specific race. Most would accuse these people as having a 'slave mentality', but in truth it is an actuality of the reality of the world that can't be ignored even if we'd like it to be.

I've actually who had a friend that used the "My parents are racist" line to avoid dating a black girl he described as: too short, fat, and not pretty. Needless to say some guys are flat out jerks. Granted though there are guys who genuinely don't care about looks. You just have to filter through all the jerks before you can actually get to the nice guys.

The year is 2010 and race is still an issue? Does race really affect who we date? I can honestly say my parents are racists to every race, including our own (that's an entire story in itself). However I think people have preferences that shouldn't be held against them. I'm of Hispanic decent but I don't like dating Hispanic girls. I don't think that qualifies as being racist because I'm not holding any prejudices against Hispanics. It's just that I rather date outside my race, makes it more interesting in my opinion. My ex, who's black, will not date a black man because of her preference. She's not racist towards her own race either, just that she likes her meats lighter. I'm more partial to Asians personally but I don't keep it exclusive. That's the one thing I dislike about certain people's dating practices. Those who will not date outside their race or those who exclusively date a particular race that's not even their own; like for example a White girl who only dates Asians. Again, people all have their preferences about the kind of person they like to date, as long as it's not based on racist prejudices, I think that's okay.

I don't think personal taste have anything to do with race, only past experience. An I think a tendcy to date outside your own race is just apart of our natural repulsion to our own family back ground, ergo we love our parents but don't want to marry people that are the same as them, weither it's personality wise or culture wise.

That's one interesting perspective but I don't have any "natural repulsion" against my family... well... maybe just a little. Sure, I agree with you that we have this "love and hate" relationship with our family however, I see them as people first and race last therefore, my tendency ("preference" for me) to date outside my race isn't connected to me not wanting to be like my (Hispanic) parents. I just don’t want to be like them. I conscientiously seek out others different than me because I already have black hair, brown eyes and skin. However there isn’t anything wrong with homogeneous couple. Maybe someday I’ll find a Hispanic that I’ll fall head-over-heels for. That just hasn’t happened yet. “Sometime you feel like a nut, sometimes you don’t.” - Mounds