What is virginity to you?

@blazing, but what's the fun if it's breaking an already broken hymen? The first time is what's special, if you get reconstructive surgery it's not the same as if it was their first time.

Pft... fine if you want some spiritual meaning for virginity. But the quest to break a hymen is pointless. The "virginity = hymen that will be broken by first sex" is a myth anyways. Besides the potential of being broken by non-sexual things. That part of the body varies person to person. The hymen for some females can physically form in ways which will never be "broken" by sex.

Virgin mentality breaking hymen over being tight I rather her being real tight fit

Hahaha it does but society again makes look like it's ok

Interesting subject to me sex is just that, sex, it's a natural urge that we all have (guys more affected by it than woman) we are animals whether people want to admit it or not and we have animalistic urges. It's only until we find one person that we deeply care about that it becomes something more.

Virginity isn't that huge a deal to me. Sex in general is something to be cautious about, especially with all the std's now a days. I still believe in sex before marriage, even though I don't get as much as I want. Dry spell right now. I'm not against one night stands but I'm more into committed relationships even if its just sexual or casual.

Virginity, per se, is an arbitrary social concept. It doesn't really exist as a concrete, measurable thing. Others have already detailed all the relevant points about the hymen, so I won't repeat all of that. What I will say is that psychologically and emotionally, a person's "first time" may or may not mean something to them, and whatever it means to them is valid for *them*. To me, my own wasn't anything I felt compelled to put a lot of ceremony on (and that was a LONG time ago), but I can respect someone who is still a virgin waiting for the right person out of personal principle. It's not a better or worse choice than not waiting, but I can respect it. What I don't really have much respect for is the "wait until marriage" stance. Unless you're one of those people who just doesn't really care about sex, it's just a really unwise idea to make a lifelong commitment to someone if you don't even know whether or not you're compatible in bed.